Sounds like a girl who can't be alone. Perhaps she was just looking for someone else while living with you (well she was) because she could just break up with you if she didn't have another person lined up. Honestly, feel sorry for her. That was wrong of her to do and she did EXACTLY what my cousin did. You really are better off. I know it hurts but give it time. You will get your answers. I need to go to sleep now. Take care.
It is true..She always needed someone or a boyfriend. Ever since she was 15 she pretty much always had a boyfriend. At 15 she dated someone for 5 years then this other guy for 1year then me for almost 3 years.. She was never single since she was 15..Maybe a couple of months but that's it..
Thanks for your advice
She sounds exactly like my cousin. She had been dating someone always since she was 12...all the way until one of her boyfriends dumped her at 27 and then she was only single for a few months. EVERY guy she dated was always serious and she was ALWAYS going to marry them. I am sure your ex girlfriend is a wonderful person but I don't think its healthy for anyone to go from relationship to relationship, never knowing what it is like to be independent and to be on your own. She is probably to some level a very insecure person who needs someone else to complete her. That is probably why she could not break up with you until she had someone else lined up. And she probably only broke with you because the marriage wasn't coming fast enough and maybe she harped too much on the little things. All couples fight. Its normal. Its not normal to break up with someone you have dated and lived with for several years and already be talking about moving in with somebody or dating somebody else so seriously so fast. I know it still hurts but I do believe that in time you will be able to look back on this experience and know you did the right things. That the problem was her problem and her insecurities.
Thank you again for your kind words.. It helps alot.. Thinking back on it you are so true on what she seems to be. Honestly I think it was about 3 or 4 months in the relationship she was talking about marriage.Nothing too serious but the topic came up anyways after only 3 or 4 months together. We had our complications at the beginning as well. She got pregnant early in our relationship. About 4 months in..We lost our baby due to a miscarriage. That may have played a part in it as well. And ever since the miscarriage and I don't wanna go into too much detail but a few weeks later we were making love and she started having sharp pains in her stomach. We found out later that it was a cyst in her ovary. It was too small to operate on so I guess the doctor advised my ex that if she doesn't conceive soon she may not be able to ever conceive a child. So thinking back now I kind of know why she always wanted a child. But as for me and I'll admit it..I was never a good listener..She would talk and talk to me but It would never sink in..I was never good at understanding peoples emotions..
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