Originally posted by CostumeSmile
Well in my bro's case, a young handsome young man with lots to offer, he didn't want to settle with the wrong girl so in the meanwhile he played the field and had fun....then along came his future wife, she put him in his place and now he is a wonderful husband. Total change on his part, my whole fam. was like whoa....
Exactly - See, yes? We can be butterfly boys and jump around from flower to flower, but there are exceptions -- The one confident, cockyass, I don't give a f**k, type of gal. These women are the ones I'm attracted to. Remember, in my book, attitude is everything!!!
~V
Oh, by the way - Costume gal - You are a sexy mami chula!
We are always up for a challenge. Don't chase us; make us come to you! If we do not want you, brush it off and move onto the next. You have this type of attitude, you'll be that much more desireable! Show us a firm hand and don't act sappy and gay. Some of us will take advantage of that and walk all over you.
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Brilliant advice, thanks.
I guess what I've been thinking is that no matter how well you understand human psych and all that, you're never in full control of who you fall for - and in a way, this is great - i mean it creates hurt and pain a lotta times, but if everything was so ruled out & rational and there was proper "love training", that'd suck! you can use your understanding of psychology to find somebody with whom you're compatible and get them to stay with you, but no knowledge can make you go crazy for someone or make them go crazy for you, right?...
The bad boy wants a girlfriend, hes just really picky.
and gets bored easily. Ussually he doesnt give a ****, this makes him unnattainable.
But with the right woman, he drops his shield, and - when he does that - the bad boy
becomes a baby.
But every time he gets hurt, he becomes even more difficult to break into.
So dont hurt your bad boy if he drops his shield!!
(or you'll get hurt by him again in a more devastating form)
They are the borg. They become stronger with every identified weakness.
You cannot beat the bad boy. Only love him
Last edited by yogi-mon; 19th December 2003 at 2:42 PM..
Originally posted by yes
OK, so some women do "change" the bad boys! Good. Cuz i don't want a good boy - i mean i want a bad boy turned good
-yes
You say this now, but once he turns good, you'll probably kick his a$$ to the curb!
You ladies will chase what you can't have, and when you finally do get it, you won't want it!
Yes - You will grow out of that bad boy phase, when you get older. Right now, you are still young and want a little excitement in your life. In time, that will all change! Just keep the badguys as a f**k buddy or a really good friend. We have our fun; why can't you?
Wash with Varsol. Or turpentine. Then you'll have to use lots of soap and water and lotion because that junk is rough on the skin. Or you can get some Snap - if they still make it.
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Originally posted by yes
you opened a whole other can of worms!
Why can't we? -> because the society tells us - bad boys screw around and then find virgins to marry. I'm exaggerating, but you get the idea, right?
-yes
True, true, I see your point. I tend to lean towards the good girls. I still like the badgirls, though!
Come on, girl - Use us and then kick us to the curb. Get some b@lls and stand up to us, stand your ground. Flip the script a little!!!
One of my previous ex's was a complete doormat!!! I used to break her a$$ down. Now, I'm so lusting after her and she toys with me, all the time. It drives me nuts, but I like it!
Although I have to much pride to give in and act sappy and gay, I must say that I make myself available to her advances and am praying that one day, she'll give me that something, that I can't get enough of!!!
~Vivid
Last edited by Vivid_29; 19th December 2003 at 3:35 PM..
Don't act like that, Moi. I'm sure that deep down, you adore us!
Sorry to burst your bubble, babe, but actually no. Never saw the charm in Warren Beatty or Burt Reynolds or Julio Iglesias - all notorious BBs. Or whatsisname now - the smoking swearing guy who got his gf pregnant and is all the rage. Men like that bore me to tears. What's worst is they think they are such hot stuff! BLECH!! People who fancy themselves playboys are not even slightly attractive; they're too impressed with themselves.
There's no compliment to me that someone like that wants to sleep with me; clearly he's not discriminating. I've no interest in being just another one of the long line of available orifices. Maybe, were he to fall madly-head-over-heels in love I might consider a relationship - but it would take a long time to convince me that the professed love was real and not just a ploy to get me into the sack.
Because if you are a f**k buddy, then he doesnt give a crap about you,
hence you want him.
Sorry bout that, but badboys dont care about **** buddies, so that
wont work for ya.
But the girls who are a badboys toy inevitably do care.
Hence the catch 22. Good boys make good **** buddies though.
cause the ladies dont care about the good boy, and use him for sex!
The mirror.
Last edited by yogi-mon; 19th December 2003 at 3:38 PM..
I understand that those who can keep their cool and play the game are the ones who win, in the end - they toy, they tease, and they get the prize. But how does one do that when there's a volcano eruption happening on the inside? Aha - so it's a matter of letting yourself feel the volcano, yet staying cool in the guy's eyes, I guess. This making sense now - because I wdn't want to stop myself from feeling what I feel, but whether or not I show it is surely a diff't issue.
Originally posted by moimeme Don't act like that, Moi. I'm sure that deep down, you adore us!
Sorry to burst your bubble, babe, but actually no. Never saw the charm in Warren Beatty or Burt Reynolds or Julio Iglesias - all notorious BBs. Or whatsisname now - the smoking swearing guy who got his gf pregnant and is all the rage. Men like that bore me to tears. What's worst is they think they are such hot stuff! BLECH!! People who fancy themselves playboys are not even slightly attractive; they're too impressed with themselves.
Like I said to you before, they're exceptions to the rule and you are one! You are a tough nut to crack, Moi, but that's good! I love the fact, that I can't break you!
Warren Beatty, Burt Reynolds, and Julio Iglesias? They don't have anything on me! You'll eventually fall for me, darling!!!
Originally posted by yogi-mon
Doesnt work like that.
Because if you are a f**k buddy, then he doesnt give a crap about you,
hence you want him.
The mirror.
Sorry pal, but I do have friends with benefits, that do pursue me, in regards to trying to get me to settle down and turn me into relationship material. And I do give a damn about them. If I didn't, or acted like I didn't, do you think they'll continue to let me hit it every now and then?
Funny thing about me. The more someone insists I will do their bidding or follow their wishes, the less likely I will be to do so. I guess some women find that powerful or masterful or something. I'm not one.
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I guess some women find that powerful or masterful or something. I'm not one.
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