[amerikajin]

Thought I'd stop preaching and throw around something to think about. Figured I'd comment and throw out some questions

Obviously, married people cheat now as they have since the beginning of time. We all know that it's best if two people don't cheat on each other, though there are a number of factors which make taking a step outside of marriage more appealing as time passes.

1. Is cheating ever healthy?

In my opinion, not really, though I'd be interested in someone else's opinion.


2. Does cheating automatically mean the end of the marriage?

Absolutely not. Certainly, there will be damaged trust to repair, and it may never quite be the same again, but I don't necessarily think that cheating by itself means that a relationship has to end. It depends on the circumstances. I've always thought to myself about how I would handle cheating. I've thought that if I were in that situation, I'd probably first sit down and have a long talk about "Why" it happened. I'd then probably move out for a short period of time, maybe just a weekend or two to myself. Maybe I'd give each other some time and space. Then I'd use that time to allow both of us to decide whether it's a good idea to continue or to head on to divorce court. Just me, though. Your thoughts???


3. Are we really meant to be monogamous our entire adult lives? Are we meant to live our lives with only one partner? Is it natural to drift onto another partner?

This is the one I don't know if I can answer. Maybe for some yes, but for others "no". Maybe we have to be careful not to condemn others for drifting, though I do believe that there is a right way and a wrong way to drift.

Whaddyou think???