[sinkerswim]

Well, my boyfriend (well, maybe hes not anymore) But...
He met me 4 months AFTER a breakup with a girl he was with for a year.
Apparently, he told me this once..that I was a rebound relationship.
But we were stronger than ever. We got engaged 4 years later.

Our relationship lasted 8 years. I hope there is many more to come.
But he needs his "space" now. Because I am too controlling.
I will be devastated if I dont see him again.

Heres my story: i met this amazing guy and we started hanging out. Although he had a girlfriend of 4 years we really got along. There relationship the past 2 years had been really bad. We started spending more time together and he broke up with her and started dating me. We have been dating now for 6 months. And let me tell you .... this guy is an emotional wreck. If I would have known I would have had to put up wiht every kind of baggage their was I wouldnt do it over. Its been really hard for me because I have to take into consideration that he did go through some really rough times, and hes really not ready for committment. Although I have to think about myself because all he ever thinks about is HIMSELF. Honestly in the beginning I knew that I shoudlnt get into this kind of relatinoship but hes just such a great guy. The first couple months were amazing. Long nights spent talking and out and it was just more than I could ever ask for. although things really came to a halt when I wanted more of a committment. Even though I know hes not screwing around on me I still wanted him to call me his gf. Its been 6 months now and honestly I realyl dont know what to do. I know he doesnt love and I know that he doesnt care about me like I care about him. And I cant make him, you can't make anyone ya know. SO itd be healthy for me to get out but i Just cant! And hes given me some other baggage that we wont get into. Anyways if anyone wants to reply thatd be awesome!

[reasontosigh]

ok...time for my strange rebound story...

It starts with this one guy I'd been seeing. He had been pursuing the living daylights out of me. But of course, when I gave him a casual call one day when I was closer to his neck of the woods (we lived about an hour apart from each other), the truth comes out. He has a live-in girlfriend.

It figures.

I decide to go pound a few at the ol' neighborhood watering hole. Who should happen to be sitting there but the dreamiest looking guy I'd seen in ages. After talking to him for a few hours I also find he was the most intelligent guy I'd been with in a looooong while! I decide I'm going for it!

We went together for about two years. The breakup was mutual. Turns out he's the only ex I've managed to stay friends with!

Sorry to resurrect the thread, fond it via google, thought my story was worth writing.

I dated a girl for 11 months. We met at a retreat thing in the summer of 2003 and "officially" started dating in may of 2004. I thought I was in heaven. As the months past I became more and more aware of some of her emotional problems -- she had never learned to be emotionally independent and couldn't cope with uncertainty. She had to have a specific plan to go by, and if anything went wrong, she just floundered around until she could find something else to latch on to.

I wish I had figured this out sooner.

In about January of this year (2005), I finally started realizing that we weren't going to have a future together. As much as wanted to tell her this, I couldn't, because I couldn't bring myself to break her heart like that. She was (as I saw it) head over heels in love. But the semester of college ended towards the end of April, and we went our separate ways. She was staying at school, and I was planning on disappearing for two years to serve my church. There are stories of people who are completely faithful during this two year hiatus, but my girlfriend is not one of those people. So I eventually had to come to grips with myself and break up with her.

She was devastated at first and behaved exactly like the emotionally unstable girl she is. Then about two weeks later, I get an email from her, telling me how glad she is that I broke up with her, because she's found herself a new boy toy. I'd heard she was interested and all that, and I wasn't surprised he'd succumbed to her charms.

That was at the beginning of May. It's now the middle of July, and they're planning on getting married in October. I'm 19, she's 18, he's 22. This is her second relationship (I was her first).

Can you say "rebound"?

[snailz]

I went straight into a rebound relationship, my boyfreind broke up with me bacause we argued over silly things, it hurt me so much, i felt angry and alone and thought- i'll show you. So i started seeing somebody else within days of us breaking up. Its not a nice thing to do, i know that, and i know i shouldnt have started seeing this poor guy, because now he's all hurt and thats my fault and i do honestly feel bad about it, thats why i ended it after 3 weeks, i miss and love my ex and its not fair on the new guy.

[justitia2005]

I might be the type that just can't handle rebounds. It simply makes my recovering stages much more difficult. I tend to compare the two men and always remember the good qualities of my ex. I haven't read much posts like mine, am I weird?

Nope ur not weird. thats how it works for me too.