[ThisGirlNameKD]

I think people are confused here at to what you're asking for: are asking for help to save your marriage or are you asking if you should get with this other woman?

Use the bible as your source of direction and guidance in your family life. The bible contains some very, very, very good information that can improve your situation. The problem is that just reading it is not going to be enough...you also have to apply what you are reading. If you take the lead in this as the husband in the household, your wife and your children may follow suit. It's going to take time, perhaps months or years. It's not something that's going to happen over night, and so it take alot of patience and long-suffering.

As far as having feelings for this other woman, that's understandable. You have emotional needs that are not being met and that you want met. But if getting with her is something you do not want to do or are not sure you want to get into, then you need to direct your thoughts of her elsewhere.

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

Originally posted by ilovemybabies
No, I was brought up that married people do not pursue people outside of the marriage, even emotionally. And you?

I had no father, he died a deservingly death when I was 6.
My mother was sorta off in the head.

It was an emotional thing that I'm over with.
I can't believe I was so stupid and senseless to have even thought of something like this.

I've straighten out my thoughts and feelings,I don't see a reason to destroy my marriage more than it was.

Hisplain,
I've taken into consideration what you have said,and you are so right .Christians destroyed because of lack of knowledge in God.
I try to be a better Christian and/or a better person but, at times its extremely hard.But you have to move forward.

ThisGirlNameKD,
I don't know what the hell I was asking,I was at the time confused my self.
But ,I'm trying to save my marriage.
I'm doing a good job so far and see the way I am and see why she would be so arguetive.
It seem to be both of us,our attitude toward the way of handling situations.
We are working on it and seem to be doing GOOD.

[TheFaithfulWife]

As a woman who has been through the other side of this equation, I say talk to your wife and explain that you feel that you are drifting apart. Tell her what you feel and what you want.
My husband told my sisters, his sister, his best friend etc. but failed to tell me that he was having problems with our relationship. He assumed that someone would clue me in.
Since we have been going to counseling and the affair he had is over our relationship has changed, I am finding all the things again that I loved initially about him and he is discovering that the woman he had grown tired of is actually a pretty fun person. We have revitalized our marriage.

Maybe your wife is as discouraged about how things are going as you are? try romancing her again, send her flowers, send her a love note. You might find that spark again.
If you find that it isn't working then end the relationship, but for everyones sake don't start another relationship until this one is over.
TFW