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I really felt like I needed to share my story in hopes of helping you with yours...
When I was 19 I married my 1st husband, and at 21 he decided he wasn't in love but loved me, because I was nagging and clingy at times, but mainly when I felt like he chose friends over me ( alot) I mean, we were both so young.
I cried, begged back, used the suicidal note, I can really relate to your wife.
Now, the happy part and weird thing is that we are now friends (we're 25 now) and we are both happily married to other people. We had no kids, but have them now with our current spouses and our kids play together! I am friends with his wife and he is friends w/ my husband and there is no weirdness.
We agreed that because we were close, but too young that it is okay to be friends.
My point is that life can change and you never know.....maybe when time heals things you can be friends with her. Even if she is hard to get along with now, so was I. I found someone and realized that although I really did love my first husband, I have a deeper, more adult love with my current husband, and of course, a family.
His wife and I go out together for a "moms night out" sometimes and we don't talk about the past, just the present and future, and of course jealousy was a big issue years ago, but we've been apart for 3 years now, seems so long ago....
Hang in there. If you do care for your wife, then maybe a friendship can develop later. I was so depressed I didn't really eat for a month, lost 50 pounds, and he was concerned, but I had to learn how to accept things and now things are a lot different.
Good luck, I feel for BOTH of you
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