Well, I must say, I wish I would find somebody that liked a few extra lbs...

Otherwise, I'm always trying to lose that 20 lbs. for so and so...
Ok, so you have made progress with her heart, you're communicating honestly, you feel good...
But you didn't answer my other question...
And if she does commit back to you, do you think you can remain committed? That would mean overcoming the 'I want what I can't have phase'.
For each of you, I really wonder, considering you've both had the forbidden fruit outside the marriage. Will you miss the rush and excitement of affairs? Can you create that rush within your marriage?
I hope for your children, you go for it competely though... Family life is much preferred to haphazard.