[JaneDoe35]

I am not sure if I will be exposing my husband's affair to the other woman's husband.......but I am curious to know what other posters decided to do when faced with this decision and what the outcome was.

I have been trying to save my marriage - with no luck.

My husband decided to end our marriage when I caught him having an affair after 13 years together, one child. My thread is 'next?'. I believe he is continuing this affair. I also have evidence of affair - phone bills, a letter etc.

What did you do?

[confused71]

Hi Jane,have been following your thread.
Yes I believe if you have exhausted all options you should definately expose the affair to OW's husband.Otherwise it will always be playing on your mind 'damn ..I should have exposed'

Plus I would say her husband deserves to know what his wife is up to.Affairs thrive on secrecy (trust me I have been through this ) and bringing it out in the open might make it not as exciting when they have to deal with the stress of being exposed.
Good luck

[JaneDoe35]

Thankyou very much for your reply Confused - I believe I am very close to having exhausted all my options.

I really hope I end up making the 'right' decision, but with these things it is just so hard to tell what is 'right'.

[confused71]

I'm afraid there are no 'right ' decisions.But at least you are trying...despite what the outcome may be.
If things dont work out you will always be able to look yourself in the mirror and say 'I tried'.
But to be honest your husband doesnt deserve you any more.

[JaneDoe35]

You know Confused, my husband told me the other day when he had that meltdown I mention in my thread - 'I do not deserve you anymore'.

I wish I could believe that.

I also agree that when/if I finally walk away I will know I have tried everything. I know it is more likely 'when' not 'if'.

I am the eternal optimist.....so silly

[confused71]

Originally Posted by JaneDoe35

You know Confused, my husband told me the other day when he had that meltdown I mention in my thread - 'I do not deserve you anymore'.

I wish I could believe that.

I also agree that when/if I finally walk away I will know I have tried everything. I know it is more likely 'when' not 'if'.

I am the eternal optimist.....so silly

Well I was the optimist too.But it didnt get me very far LOL

Its so crazy with yours ,mine and all the other walk away storys on here.
Its as if one day a switch was thrown on my ex that turned her into a completely uncaring selfish person.
My ex now has the divorce she wanted ..but still wont leave me alone .