[ann09]

I have been doing a lot of research online about divorce, mediation, effects of divorce on kids etc and came across this forum. So nice to have so many questions answered in one spot.

I am 40 yrs old, been married for 14 years, 3 children - and not in love with my husband. He, on the other hand, loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Me, not so much.

It's a long, drawn out story and I am not sure where I would begin. So I will just wrap this up with saying, I don't have feelings of love for my husband even though he is a decent husband. We have a beautiful home and 3 beautiful kids. He works, I don't. I have everything I have ever wanted except the marriage I have always wanted. We have been in therapy for a long time - but I know my feelings for him will never change. He is saddened and hurt beyond belief.

I come from a family where no one gets divorced. You MAKE it work. My family knows my plight and is supportive yet devastated. My mom keeps telling me I need to make this work and not "destroy my family". My husband wants to do everything we can to stay together. Sadly, I love him like a brother - and I don't know too many people that want to sleep with their brothers.

There is more to my story but I feel so new here and not yet willing to disclose everything. Just wondering if there are any others out there that are in my situation. Where one is in love with the other - but the other just wants it to be over?