[junglejim]

Before I start the post, I have to say how sad and deeply disappointing it was to read posts in this and The Other Man/Woman forums. How do so many people end up cheating, and for so long? How do so many people delude themselves and how can they rationalize what they do as anything other than a choice to actively engage in one of the most horrible betrayals in life?

Anyway, to the purpose of the post. I have a friend, married 10 years, says she loves her husband and he is her best friend but he is not interested in her physically as often as she would like.
She met a married guy at a sales conference, thought he was amazing (he is successful, good looking and looked at her like he desired her) they had a passionate one night thing at the hotel then returned home.

The guy from the conference texts her a couple of times then nothing for 4 months. She is depressed about this and has another one nighter while drunk at a party with a family friend.

The other night she gets drunk, texts the guy from the conference, he responds saying he is at a conference near her in a month and suggests they hook up.

She calls me, tells me everything that has happened. I tell her that what she has done is incredibly wrong, that she is betraying a good man and helping a player betray his wife. I say that she needs to forget about this guy and fix or kill her marriage. She agrees, accepts that she was wrong but then says she is still going to go see this guy (supposedly at the hotel he is at for 3 days) to understand what happened and get closure.

Am I being dumb in thinking this is BS? This guy made her feel special ('incredible' was the word used) and it seems to me that if she really thought he was a player she would not meet up with him.

So my question is - Has anyone been in a similar position and felt the need to physically see the person to 'get closure' or is she more likely going for a last feel good shag before deciding what to do?