[taboo]

This is a story of two people both married for years and love they're spouses. However, they are in love with each other and have been intimate and continue to communicate as they are geograpically 800 miles apart. They talk to each other everyday and have never experienced this level of splendor they share with each other with anyone even spouses
at anytime in either of their lives.

They are not all evil people both have raised families and children all grown
and moved out and families of their own. One of these individuals is being
torn up by guilt for being in love with her new found love after the last encounter which was heavenly for both. The female has had many opportunites and never did anything until she met him.

The male as well never did any cheating of anykind until he met her
The fact here is these two people are very deeply in love and though
they love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love
them and have not displaced any love from either.

Both the spouses of these two people have done their share of abuse mainly emotional and controlling fashion as well as being accusatory and
mindlessly suspicious and jealous taking for granted the other over the course of their marriages.

Please somebody some input but would be very welcome

Please help

[foreal]

Is there a reason divorce isn't an option?

[1Angel]

Originally Posted by foreal

Is there a reason divorce isn't an option?

For real. Am I missing something here too?

[TaraMaiden]

OK, taboo, quit the hypotheticals.

You're in love with someone.
Someone is in love with you.

You're married.
They're married.

You say it's wonderful.
They say it's wonderful.
You say you both love your spouse(s) but, and I quote,

they love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love
them and have not displaced any love from either.

Both the spouses of these two people have done their share of abuse mainly emotional and controlling fashion as well as being accusatory and
mindlessly suspicious and jealous taking for granted the other over the course of their marriages.

Which frankly is Bu11$h1t, because you either love them, and want to be with them, or you don't because of the black picture you have painted of them (leaving you looking saintly, of course, even though you've opened your legs for another man/slipped it into another woman....yeh, whatever.....)

Why would you want to stay an extra second with spouses who "have done their share of abuse mainly emotional and controlling fashion as well as being accusatory and mindlessly suspicious and jealous taking for granted the other over the course of their marriages"....

....When you have fallen in love with Mr/s perfect?

('Accusatory, and mindlessly suspicious and jealous?' So they're not wrong though, are they?)

Think, before you post such diatribe.
You're playing with fire.
At least wear something flame-proof.....

[Mr. Lucky]

Originally Posted by TaraMaiden

('Accusatory, and mindlessly suspicious and jealous?' So they're not wrong though, are they?)

I had to laugh at that one too. What's that old line about how it's not paranoia if they really are out to get you? At least in this case, it would seem that their "mindless suspicions" were pretty well grounded .

Originally Posted by taboo

The fact here is these two people are very deeply in love and though they love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love them and have not displaced any love from either.

Another contradiction. How do you have the obvious infatuation and intimacy you feel for your AP and not have it come at the expense of your marriage? Amongst other people, you're also fooling yourself...

Mr. Lucky

[boomboom63]

hmmmmmm..................... perhaps that should read rightly suspicious

[Untouchable_Fire]

Originally Posted by taboo

The male as well never did any cheating of anykind until he met herThe fact here is these two people are very deeply in love and thoughthey love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love them and have not displaced any love from either.

Sometimes loving somebody means letting go, especially if your IN love with someone else.

Besides... the ugly truth comes when you ask an affair partner to choose. Otherwise it's all smoke and mirrors.

[Chrome Barracuda]

If anything the two cheaters are bad people. Affairs are bad and yet they choose this! so what does that say about them. Also what gives these two people the right to drag their spouses through hell for which they dont know about.

Is that fair to them or their future? The cheaters dont love their spouses, they dont even love themselves. They just love the gratification loving others while attached to someone else brings.

They need to be divorced so that way both friends can get together, And let's see if that relationship works out!

[seibert253]

Both are very selfish and self absorbed.

The right think to do would be to cut contact, admit to their prospective spouses, then go from there. Give the marriages a shot, but if it doesn't work out, they can return to each other, enjoying the fact the destroyed not one, but two families.

[kuma]

Originally Posted by taboo

This is a story of two people both married for years and love they're spouses. However, they are in love with each other and have been intimate and continue to communicate as they are geograpically 800 miles apart. They talk to each other everyday and have never experienced this level of splendor they share with each other with anyone even spouses
at anytime in either of their lives.

They are not all evil people both have raised families and children all grown
and moved out and families of their own. One of these individuals is being
torn up by guilt for being in love with her new found love after the last encounter which was heavenly for both. The female has had many opportunites and never did anything until she met him.

The male as well never did any cheating of anykind until he met her
The fact here is these two people are very deeply in love and though
they love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love
them and have not displaced any love from either.

Both the spouses of these two people have done their share of abuse mainly emotional and controlling fashion as well as being accusatory and
mindlessly suspicious and jealous taking for granted the other over the course of their marriages.

Please somebody some input but would be very welcome

Please help

If you love your husband, let him go. Right now you're the one controlling your husband. Can't you see it? You're wasting his time and you have no right to do that.

And how do you know your MM's wife is an abusive woman? Have you met her?

[tami-chan]

Originally Posted by taboo

This is a story of two people both married for years and love they're spouses. However, they are in love with each other and have been intimate and continue to communicate as they are geograpically 800 miles apart. They talk to each other everyday and have never experienced this level of splendor they share with each other with anyone even spouses
at anytime in either of their lives.

They are not all evil people both have raised families and children all grown
and moved out and families of their own. One of these individuals is being
torn up by guilt for being in love with her new found love after the last encounter which was heavenly for both. The female has had many opportunites and never did anything until she met him.

The male as well never did any cheating of anykind until he met her
The fact here is these two people are very deeply in love and though
they love their spouses they are not in love with them but they love
them and have not displaced any love from either.

Both the spouses of these two people have done their share of abuse mainly emotional and controlling fashion as well as being accusatory and
mindlessly suspicious and jealous taking for granted the other over the course of their marriages.

Please somebody some input but would be very welcome

Please help

Tell us what is a perfect world for you? keeping the marriage and having a BF on the side? your OM/MM leaving his marriage and you and he run off together and live happily ever after? Telling your spouses the truth and them tolerating your affair? what is it that you want? or....you are just not sure what you want and hope that talking about it here will somehow help you put things in perspective and hopefully, make a sound, honest decision?