[Brady_to_Moss]

Originally Posted by SecretlySad

Yes as I said in my original post as you will see, give or take a few months... I would literally be single for 1, maybe 2 months at a time before meeting someone else and jumping in the deep end again.

Ok, looks like I know what I have to do, now to just find the courage to do it. [

Next time, give yourself a year of being single. Say to yourself that unless you find god, you are going to stay single. Have some fun. Go out by yourself and it will do wonders down the road.

I am on year 3 of this

[SecretlySad]

Originally Posted by BG1985

Secretly Sad, I feel like Canada Guy is trying to put this all on you. He's trying to validate the reason his ex left him and he's trying to impose it on your relationship. You are unhappy because you are in a relationship which you don't want to be in. I guarantee that when you get out and reconnect with your old friends and start going out and exploring new things, you'll be happy again. This doesn't look like it's one of those you'll never be happy sort of things.

Too add on top of that, it just looks like there's too much complacency in the relationship on both sides. That is never a good thing.

I am glad I am not the only one that thinks that...

Oh boy there is. It's like we both know the problems are there and have been for ages, but neither of us want to bring it up, we both pretend it's not happening. He is your typical guy who never wants to talk about it, has to get up early, doesn't have time for this sh*t etc etc. If I am angry for what he deems to be a silly reason, he doesn't give me the time, even though the reason may not be silly to me.

To be honest our communication has never been very good, I think in part due to our completely different personalities. He is dominant and loud, and I am reserved and very quiet. He doesn't want to say things that will upset me because he knows I am super sensitive, and I don't want to enrage him because I know he has a tendancy to become agressive (verbally). It's Eggshell City at our place...

Originally Posted by Brady_to_Moss

Next time, give yourself a year of being single. Say to yourself that unless you find god, you are going to stay single. Have some fun. Go out by yourself and it will do wonders down the road.

I am on year 3 of this

I have always said if I was ever single again that would be what I wanted - just one whole year to myself, it seems like a total dream. I know I have mentioned the sex stuff but it honestly has nothing to do with that. It has to do with being able to think about me and only me for once in my life. I have never had that luxury. Whenever my bf talks about his 20's where he did what he wanted, bought what he wanted, went where he wanted etc, I become sickly jealous.