[2sunny]

so true, an easy and inexpensive search will reveal much about a person they aren't willing to tell... especially at the beginning.

age, marital history, where they've lived, relatives and even credit history... oh, and whether or not they have a criminal history... kind of a good way to gauge if they are willing to lie even about the little things.

this guy i dated not long ago was unwilling to give any personal firm info that would allow me to find anything on him... he lived out of a hotel for the past six months and said that prior to that he lived on the opposite coast. even his email was designed to only show his first name along with the fact that he likes cycling... i asked him if he was married - he said no - but my tried and true radar was screaming MARRIED.

[threebyfate]

1. Unavailable for special occasions.
2. Won't introduce you to family and friends.
3. Is only interested in staying at your place, rather than go out to trendy restaurants or hot spots, once in awhile.
4. Is unavailable by phone or text message, where response is always delayed.
5. Doesn't like to make firm plans, tends to be a last minute guy.
6. Never has you over.
7. Won't ever stay the night.

[hopeful1980]

Some of these are funny! LOL!

A lot of people carry cell phones and have no friends! LOL!

I can see not letting you come to their place. That should be a dead giveaway.

[ADF]

Originally Posted by hopeful1980

I think there are signs. Recently a woman I know got involved with a married man. She claims she didn't know he was married until his wife called her cursing her out and threatening her.

Anyway, prior to this he was giving her rent money, got her brakes fixed on her car, got her cable turned on and just giving her money. She's a 27 year old single mom who really needed the help so she was grateful. But I suspected he was married all along because he's a 42 year old man. Why in the world would he be doing all these things for a woman he just met? I asked her that and she said he told her, "I just hate to see a young woman struggling." Yeah right! From that point on, I thought he may be married but she didn't.

Well, I was right. It just seemed like something a married man would do to try and gain a vulnerable woman's trust in order to have an affair.

Even if a man doesn't come right out and tell you he's married, aren't their signs that he is?

I would bet any amount of money your friend new perfectly well the man in question was married, or at least strongly suspected it. There is a word for the kind of relationship your friend had, which I won't repeat here.