If an entire gender is damaged and you're the only one who's sane, that's an indication of some megalomania tendencies...
Please point out where I said I was sane.
I KNOW I've got my problems, but I'm aware of them and I'm always working to improve on those. Most women will do nothing and say "Well, that's how I am, take it or leave it." I say good riddance.
From some of the comments being made in this thread, some don't have a clue about women. Assumptions are being made that women think like men. Not even close...
While I agree that women don't think like men, men also don't think like women. In other words, you keep on expressing your emotions verbally and I'll keep showing mine by leading a woman into the bedroom and making love to her.
A man wanting to "do" you, is about as far from caring about a woman, as you can possibly get.
If a woman is really into you and cares for you, she's going to appreciate that you show her your vulnerabilities. If a woman is uncertain of her feelings for you, showing her your vulnerabilities can go either way.
After showing your vulnerabilities, don't smother her. But as well, don't withdraw. This is a male failing that so many guys do, for self-protection. Instead of protecting you, it will create uncertainty between you, making her move away from you, to self-protect.
Just be who you were before, who I hope was the real you, all along.
Been seeing my current gf for like 2 months now...I have developed very strong feelings for her and we have seen a lot of one another over this time span, I feel she could possibly be someone I would like to get very serious with and grow with and see where things go. I decided to kinda come clean with my thoughts and current feelings for her and let her know what my intentions are at this point.
She has a bit of a problem with opening up to people and trusting them she said a lot of friends have kinda stuck her in the back over the years and they were supposidly close...I have avoided the issue like the plague, but the other night I could no longer hold in the feelings I have been developing for her came out very nicely and sweet and told her that she is becoming very special to me. I told her if that scares her I am sorry, but I cannot possibly go hold it in any longer. I thought it was a nice gesture and just a small step in what I thought was the direction I want this to be headed. I guess I was expecting a similar response, but i got something a bit different than expected...
She told me it was nice to know how I feel and it does scare her a bit. I asked if she was scared of getting hurt, or scared because she might be feeling the same way I am. She said both...She mentioned about her close friends stabbing her in the back and said no offence to you, but how do I know you wont do the same. She doesnt like to open up and doesnt like to feel vulnerable or putting herself at risk of being hurt. After telling her I had no intentions of hurting her and feel I am in this for the right reasons, she countered me by saying no one ever has those intentions but these things happen....I told her I am not going anywhere, and I know what I am capable of and know what I want in life.
I have been demolished by a few long term relationships in the past, but I realize that the only way to make it work is to take a chance and put myself out there to either be loved unconditionally or rejected. I just felt I was at a point where there were a few things I needed to say, and she needed to hear...
I really kinda regret opening up to her somewhat, but I had to do it and felt it was necessary for my own sanity. But now how do I go about overcoming this obsticle now with this person who I have been building such strong feelings for? How am I ever going to build a loving trusting relationship with her if everytime I try to make a a small step in growing our relationship I feel like I step back. How do I show her I can be trusted?, how can I show her I am worth the risk?
You did nothing wrong. This woman is obviously very, very damaged. It sounds like everyone who has ever meant anything to her has stabbed her in the back (whatever that means) and she now focuses on not getting hurt rather than being happy. She needs to recognize what you have: that there is no happiness without risk. Keep in mind it is still very early in your relationship. 2 months is the blink of an eye. You're going to have to wait to see whether she is able to get over her fears and trust you. If she cannot, you may end up paying for other people's crimes. She may be at a point in her life where she needs a conselor more than a BF. Time will tell.
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