So, Yeah last night sucked. Again. I've been on a string of fairly bad dates the last month. For some odd reason they have all been single moms. Now, I've had a few long term relationships with single moms, so I know this is probably just a random streak. It really doesn't feel like it though. Here is what has me irritated at the moment.
If your last BF was an super abusive ahole... why have kids with him?
Why is scheduling a date like pulling teeth?
It bugs the crap out of me to be sneaking out of a bedroom at 4am so the kids don't see me!
Why have 3 kids with 4 different guys?
I just get sad when a kid says something like "are you my new daddy?"
I don't like paying for a babysitter when I didn't get a chance to negotiate the price! Why does my offer to pay for that mean it's going to cost $150!
Finally, if your kids are your whole life... Why bother dating at all? I'm not looking to be something special right off the bat... but I'm not going to permanently be second place to another guys kids.
I'm not going to permanently be second place to another guys kids.
Here's the key sentence to me. I'm not a mom so I don't know first hand, but I'm assuming that once a person has children, they are always first place. Always.
You probably shouldn't date single moms if you're not okay with that.
Here's the key sentence to me. I'm not a mom so I don't know first hand, but I'm assuming that once a person has children, they are always first place. Always.
You probably shouldn't date single moms if you're not okay with that.
I know that sounds really bad, but I think it's an important point. I'm sure single dads do the same thing.
I don't think anyone want's to be in a relationship with someone who won't give 100%.
Unless they also have kids, then there would be an understanding.
I think it must be hard for a parent to date a non-parent, for this reason.
Surprisingly enough, it happens when both have kids too. My step mom wanted her and her kids to be #1 when she married my dad. And she got what she wanted.
It doesnt sound like the problem is so much dating single moms as it is dating women who are not creepy.
Yeah, this is just me ranting a little.
The date last night was just aweful. She spent a good 15 minutes going off about her baby-daddy. Sent her meal back because it wasn't cooked to her liking... ect. When I dropped her off and way overpaid the babysitter, she invited me to stay for a bit, but I was so just... ugh... I kissed her on the cheek and went home.
If your last BF was an super abusive ahole... why have kids with him?
I'd watch out for any woman who dates abusive a-holes. There's issues there. Most women who've got their nuts together can spot an abuser and don't date them. Argue all you want. It's the truth.
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Why is scheduling a date like pulling teeth?
I never had this problem. Because my ex was not an abusive a-hole, and is a great dad, I had plenty of time for dating. If you date a single mom who has a good relationship with dad, it's easier all around.
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It bugs the crap out of me to be sneaking out of a bedroom at 4am so the kids don't see me!
Again, plan your sleepovers for when dad has the kiddos. My fiance never spent the night when the kids were home. Not until we got engaged and lived together and he had spent oodles of months of time with them.
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Why have 3 kids with 4 different guys?
I just get sad when a kid says something like "are you my new daddy?"
I just want on the record here. Yikes. Where are you finding these milfs.
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Finally, if your kids are your whole life... Why bother dating at all? I'm not looking to be something special right off the bat... but I'm not going to permanently be second place to another guys kids.
Do you really feel this way?
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UF - I think maybe you are best of dating someone without kids. I've tried it, and started feeling the same way in some aspects. I realized that it's just not for everyone (dating a single parent), including me. I don't think it's a bad thing, some people just aren't equipped for it.
I'd watch out for any woman who dates abusive a-holes. There's issues there. Most women who've got their nuts together can spot an abuser and don't date them. Argue all you want. It's the truth.
I never had this problem. Because my ex was not an abusive a-hole, and is a great dad, I had plenty of time for dating. If you date a single mom who has a good relationship with dad, it's easier all around.
Again, plan your sleepovers for when dad has the kiddos. My fiance never spent the night when the kids were home. Not until we got engaged and lived together and he had spent oodles of months of time with them.
I just want on the record here. Yikes. Where are you finding these milfs.
Do you really feel this way?
On a side note but related to the thread...anyone notice an arbitrary amount of *young* single moms on PoF.com/okcupid.com/craigslist?
Granted craigslist singles are SO bad right now I'm not sure I even want to look, it's all spam....but I digress.
It feels like there are alot of single moms in their VERY early 20's (like has a kid that's 4-7 and is 23. (I.E. Teenage Mom).
I don't know. I could deal with someone who had a kid in their 20's but for some reason teenage moms just scream "Dumbass, why didn't you use protection?...Did you really want a kid in your teens?"
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