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I however know not to trust a pretty face and am more into finding the total package of looks and personality rather than just trying to get laid and taking whatever i can get...
OP ignore them. Having a weight preference is a-ok by my standards. So is having a height preference if you're a female. Let's not focus on what some random person on the internet thinks.
Weight preference - makes sense
Height preference that isn't just "taller than me" - retarded
I was with a really overweight woman once. I figured what the hell she was really nice and good to me and she was a nymphomaniac.
I tried to get her to do a bit of exercise with me, simple crap like going for walks and stuff because quite honestly I like to do things like that I guess maye that's why I'm NOT overweight myself. I wasnt haranging her about her weight although I was a bit curious about what she'd look like if she lost a hundred pounds I thought maybe she'd be pretty hot she was pretty tall at 5'10".
What happened? Well because I did all the cooking and I eat healthy (I lost 70 lbs myself), and because I was taking her for walks she lost 45 lbs in like four months. (If you've ever lost a lot of weight, you know that the first pounds literally fall off, its the last 30 or 40 that are the hardest to get rid of).
And guess what?
She didn't like it. So she started eating crap food and Burger King because she didn't like how her pants were falling off. She refused to go for the walks with me and her kids citing that she "wasnt feeling well". I was appalled.
So I do not for one second, both because I lost a lot of weight myself and because of that experience, beleive that any woman who is fat and overweight is not that way by choice. Calories in calories out it's simple math. 2000 calories equals a pound of fat. Short yourself 2000 calories you lose a pound. Intake an extra 2000 calories and you gain a pound.
After that experience I refuse to be with any woman who is fat. I dont require some skinny anorexic woman with an eating disorder I dont expect perfection life happens to people especially as we get older.
People point fingers at smokers and tell them they should stop smoking that it's bad for their health, they will tell smokers they should stop smoking and pester them. I think we should do that to fat people too. "Look at you, stop eating for god sakes, do you know what your doing to your health?" For some reason it's ok to pester smokers who are in tremendously good shape but that fat ass guy or woman who is bursting at the seams with LDL cholesterol and who is going to have a heart attack just walking up a couple flights of stairs, for them its not OK to peseter them they have some sort of a "medical problem".
Hogwash. Fat people are fat because they eat too much and exercise too little. It's simple.
Then when it comes to women wanting a guy because he's tall... Well that's just reality we're not about to change it but IMO I think beyond a couple inches above their own height they're just being shallow.
Give me a guy who is my height (5'8") who knows what he is doing in the bedroom any day over a guy who is 6'2" and useless in the bedroom.
I think height is something we women look at in our twenties. But now (I'm 36) when I look at men who are 6' + and I look at their imperfect character, they seem much less to me. I have to struggle to pay attention to what they are saying, so I seem polite.
And the guys who are around my height with solid character, seem ten feet tall to me and walk on water. I could listen for hours.
Yeah I find that too. When I was in my early 20s the girls would be all fawning over the tall guys and the guys with hot sports cars it was a definite challenge to get laid by a hot girl in those days.
Now its stupidly easy in my 30s. When my ex-fiancee left me after 9 years of being together I was terrified, how would I handle the dating game after being out of the loop for my entire 20s? But it's stupidly easy now. I'm only 5'6" and I have short girls tall girls it seems all I need to do is talk to them and its easy to start something.
Lots of women don't want a fat guy, it is not a sexist thing.
I don't have a strict height preference, the same height as me or taller. Most women aren't that choosy.
Guys who think that height is what women want are ugly guys who are 5'9 and shorter who are making excuses.
Lots and lots and lots of guys don't want to date a woman taller than they are, so this is really about ugly guys who can't get dates slamming women.
Lots of women don't want a fat guy, it is not a sexist thing.
I don't have a strict height preference, the same height as me or taller. Most women aren't that choosy.
Guys who think that height is what women want are ugly guys who are 5'9 and shorter who are making excuses.
Lots and lots and lots of guys don't want to date a woman taller than they are, so this is really about ugly guys who can't get dates slamming women.
I'm sorry, but do you think you could generalize any more broadly than that?
No, it's not "ugly guys" or whatever kind of guys doing whatever, it's empirical evidence based on the stated preferences of women in statistically and methodologically sound studies, their preferences as demonstrated in personals ads, and the dating/relationship behavior of real people as documented in relative height comparisons & correlations of male/female couples that demonstrate the phenomenon. For the latter, the evidence--as demonstrated in scholarly studies--centers around the fact that relative heights of partners skew very, very heavily to the male taller/female shorter norm than random chance would produce. This info is out there.
Ugly? Nope. I'm not, according to numerous people, include absolute strangers in various forms. There are many guys who won't date a woman who's taller, that's their problem. I think they have a body image and self-esteem problem. My masculinity isn't in question and doesn't depend on my height relative to that of a female partner. I'll date women of any height, and have, incl. one who was 5'10". If a short guy wants to avoid taller women, that's his loss, and I think it's silly. I'm not going to shut out numerous women based on a statistic. In my personals use, I don't list any preferred height range (or body type), and I'll reply to women of any height. I live with the reality, though, that a woman who's 5'10" and lists a minimum height of 5'11" is very unlikely--not certainly--to be interested in me, compared to one who's 5'4" and lists a height range that includes me.
I'm not looking for an excuse. I'm not looking to slam women as it seems this thread was started to do. My interest is in getting the real perspective of real women so I can base my understanding of how my height (5'4") might well influence (not totally determine) my dating/relationship experiences. A reality check.
The 5'10" girlfriend and another woman who was 5'11" both contacted me on a personals site on the same day, and both had height preferences listed of like 5'9"+. I've had dates/relationships with other taller women (a few but not many) and women who had height ranges excluding me by a fair degree. But anecdotal evidence doesn't get at presenting general patterns and norms, my interest. What you think and I think means just that, and doesn't speak to the bigger picture. A great of evidence exists on this--and also about many short men not wanting taller women, and also about both sexes and weight preferences.
Lots of women don't want a fat guy, it is not a sexist thing.
I don't have a strict height preference, the same height as me or taller. Most women aren't that choosy.
Guys who think that height is what women want are ugly guys who are 5'9 and shorter who are making excuses.
Lots and lots and lots of guys don't want to date a woman taller than they are, so this is really about ugly guys who can't get dates slamming women.
Fair point if your a little short but have a decent face and perosnality you should have no problem gettign women but if your really short then its a huge problem..
I think the op said hes 5'4 so no matter how attratcive he is facially i think the majorty of women would turn him down based on height..
Wow....I'd been browsing around this part of the forums....looks like this one got a lot of responses.
So I'll throw in my feedbak.
I've known women that were...say 5'3" 5"4......who, apparently like to factor in their High Heels as part of their hgt.
I am around 5'8"...and of course that's too short for woman of said ht, because SHE says, "Well, I wear 5" heels, so that would bring me to about eye-level to you, sorry, not going to do that."
I think that's a level of shallowness when it comes to ht. standards that's really way out there.
Wow....I'd been browsing around this part of the forums....looks like this one got a lot of responses.
So I'll throw in my feedbak.
I've known women that were...say 5'3" 5"4......who, apparently like to factor in their High Heels as part of their hgt.
I am around 5'8"...and of course that's too short for woman of said ht, because SHE says, "Well, I wear 5" heels, so that would bring me to about eye-level to you, sorry, not going to do that."
I think that's a level of shallowness when it comes to ht. standards that's really way out there.
Let's not forget, that men enable this by kissing the behinds of women,a ll the time. The reason why women can be this picky is because guys allow them to be. Women that insist on dating only guys 6'3+ only date guys that tall, because those guys will date them..
All sorts of horrific behavior by women gets enabled because some g uy wants to have sex...
Do an experiment. Volunteer. You'll notice that there are virtually no women under the age of 33 that volunteer.
Let's not forget, that men enable this by kissing the behinds of women,a ll the time. The reason why women can be this picky is because guys allow them to be. Women that insist on dating only guys 6'3+ only date guys that tall, because those guys will date them..
All sorts of horrific behavior by women gets enabled because some g uy wants to have sex...
Do an experiment. Volunteer. You'll notice that there are virtually no women under the age of 33 that volunteer.
YEAH Women are evil They dont even volunteer. (sarcasm)
But you are right that lot of men forget to not gratificate bad behaviour.
But I seriously doubt that reason for women liking taller men is something superficial or worth of contempt.
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They dont even volunteer. (sarcasm)
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