Working, either regular hours or overtime, or staying home with our boy so she could have some "me" time. Of course her me time quickly turned into time with OM.
When one of my fellow brothers in blue found them in the back seat of his car, well you know the rest of the story. Went downhill quickly. Busted.
Well lets see, having been given (whether I wanted them or not) every tiny detail of his numerous affairs and one night stands, I now know I was in Sierra Leone, Zimbabwe and New Orleans at the times he took a couple of them on holiday to the Seychelles, Courchevel and Antigua respectively. At other times I was variously seeing friends or family, or right at home waiting to soothe his fevered brow after his intense, stressful 'executive meetings'.
Working. Working overtime. Starting a side-business. Trying to pay off the bills that kept mounting while he was going to school and doing his hobbies. I didn't know that one of those hobbies was another woman.
Taking care of our kids, home, finances, agonizing over his unhappiness and making vain attempts to work on our marriage only to be shot down and then withdraw, to rise up again and give it yet another try...only to realize now how pathetic all of that was when he had this other woman who loved him so much and who he could turn to.
My weekly AA meeting....basically the only time we were apart.
For that 1.5 hours I was gone, she went to have sex in the public park .... every week for 3 months.
I would get home before her and do the dishes as she walked in every week.
Needless to say, I can't go to my meetings anymore...the triggers are awful.
why don't you just get rid of her? I guarantee you, the triggers will go away, and once you start dating good women, what she did won't matter in the slightest to you.
Working. Working overtime. Starting a side-business. Trying to pay off the bills that kept mounting while he was going to school and doing his hobbies. I didn't know that one of those hobbies was another woman.
Man So tired, your story sounds just a buddy of mines.
He was busting his ass, working two jobs, OT, taking care of the 5 and 2 year old while his STBXW was going to school. Her hobby turned out to be a fellow classmate.
Once she got her Physician's Assistant degree and cert. Out the door she went. She played him for a fool for 2 years. He "knew", but was deep in denial. Cost him his marriage and to top it all, she got primary custody of the kids. Now his kids' primary residence is with his STBXW and the OW. WTF. Our court system is SOOO fantastic.
While she was screwing two of the guys, I was trying to run our business while she refused to help. On one specific occasion, I was in bed with pneumonia (probably from the stress of working 100 hour weeks) she was upstairs at a couple-friends house screwing one of them.
I don't remember the specifics if the other two other than I was not getting any.
May I add? While I was cheating, I was also cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, caring for two small children, working, exercising, running all errands(grocery, md appts), changing light bulbs, taking out the trash, getting oil changes, and more. While I was cheating, my H was laying on the couch, watching t.v., **traveling for work**, ignoring me and our children, helping and running errands for his immediate family, making our weekends miserable with his grumpy and sour moods, and showing affection only when he wanted sex.
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