Actually I was thinking about what Shadowplay said earlier. She said there's plenty of thin Caucasian women (who happen to be young), so dating Asians because they're thin is BS. Well, I see a lot of young, thin Caucasian women, but getting closer to middle age they seem to gain weight. On the other hand, most middle aged Asians seem to stay thin. (This is only my experience, I don't mean to offend anyone or generalize, I've seen plenty of exceptions).
Actually I was thinking about what Shadowplay said earlier. She said there's plenty of thin Caucasian women (who happen to be young), so dating Asians because they're thin is BS. Well, I see a lot of young, thin Caucasian women, but getting closer to middle age they seem to gain weight. On the other hand, most middle aged Asians seem to stay thin. (This is only my experience, I don't mean to offend anyone or generalize, I've seen plenty of exceptions).
This is a good example of the kind of fetishism I was talking about. Whatever the truth of the matter is, many white guys BELIEVE Asian women are unlikely to ever get fat, and prefer them for that reason. I have heard white men say this several times. They claims they like Asian women because they don't "goblinize."
This is a good example of the kind of fetishism I was talking about. Whatever the truth of the matter is, many white guys BELIEVE Asian women are unlikely to ever get fat, and prefer them for that reason. I have heard white men say this several times. They claims they like Asian women because they don't "goblinize."
Well is it false? Obesity rates in Japan, South Korea, and Taiwan are miniscule compared to the United States. So to say that IN GENERAL Asians are thinner isn't fetishism. In specific cases, it differs from person to person of course.
I sometimes think too many on LS, overthink superficial preferences. If you're attracted to Asians or purple people eaters, and they're attracted to you, does it really matter what other people think?
Now if you're attracted to [insert whatever preference(s)] and they aren't attracted to you, then that's something to be concerned about.
Ok completely off topic, but TBF is that your wedding photo as your avi?
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Ok completely off topic, but TBF is that your wedding photo as your avi?
Yes it is.
I have a number of asian friends, some women, some men. Some of them are in inter-racial marriages. The only similarities between all of them is that they're westernized, 2nd generation or more but lean towards a more conservative perspective in life.
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Ironically, Asian women have chased me since I was 16. I do not seek them out, but if I go to a party, a social gathering, speed dating, or any other sort of mixer, I often get emailed by an Asian woman interested in going on a date with me. And why should I say no?
Similarly, on online dating sites, Asian woman both contact me and respond to my attempts at contact dramatically more often than any other ethnicity.
So as a result, 3 of my 4 major relationships were with Asian women. And they're not all great people. The last one was a Vietnamese narcissist about whom it's difficult to decide whether she was insane or just plain evil.
Now, I'm clean cut, in shape, overeducated, successful, and a part-time workaholic in search of the same to build a family so perhaps that alone filters out half of American women given our habitual cultural laziness and sense of entitlement, but ya know, who cares anymore? I just met an amazing woman, and whether it goes the distance or not is irrelevant, I'm having fun.
Unless her family members are obese and she has unhealthy habits, why would you avoid dating a woman because she MIGHT get fat in the future? Any woman in the world, and man, might get fat or get old and die at some point (actually, the aging and death part is certain). For the most part, you date someone for how they make you feel at present.
Unless her family members are obese and she has unhealthy habits, why would you avoid dating a woman because she MIGHT get fat in the future? Any woman in the world, and man, might get fat or get old and die at some point (actually, the aging and death part is certain). For the most part, you date someone for how they make you feel at present.
Death is certain, getting older is certain (except for early death). Theoretically you want to be with someone for as long as possible and still keep the attraction. It's kind of like why you would want to date someone educated. They have a higher chance of making more money, and you want to have financial security when you're raising a family. Yes there are people who aren't educated and are still smart or make a lot of money but in general being educated is necessary to make more money.
Alright it's far from flawless logic but you get the picture. I do try to approach weight gain sensitively though. It can happen for a whole variety of reasons but it can be helped.
I too am another white guy that prefers Asian girls, or at least girls that are half Asian/ half white, over any other race. But I don't date Asian girls exclusively.
I have always been attracted to their dark hair, dark eyes, shortness, ability to never really get fat, and just the general overall look of their facial features.
I have had two serious relationships with Asian girls, one of them cheating on me when I was in Iraq (I used to be in the Marines) and the other one I got married to and was married to them for 4 years. That marriage ended when she pretty much turned mean and started making our money disappear.
Both Asian girls were born in the US and grew up in the US. They had American accents and didn't speak much of their Asian heritage's language.
Both were skinny and never really gained any weight, both could cook well, yadda yadda yadda.
But after bad experiences with two Asian girls I vowed to never date another Asian girl after my divorce. So I ended up only dating my own race of white girls. But after a couple of bad relationships with them I have completely changed my mind to think that all girls of all races are pretty much a like when it comes to the mental thinking of relationships.
I still date all races, but I still have a special place in my heart for Asian girls. Currently I am dating a very nice and pretty half white/half Asian girl, so far so good, but I guess we will see! haha
I am just curious and feel the need to throw this question out there.
Personally, I find myself (a 23-year-old white male) attracted to girls of Asian descent (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc). However, this would normally get interpreted as an Asian fetish/"Yellow fever"/etc, but I've always had issue with this due to the fact that it implies a sexual objectification.
However, I *do* find Asians more sexually attractive, but that is not the only reason I have that preference, and I wouldn't turn turn a girl of another race purely because of her ethnicity (an awesome girl is nevertheless awesome), but Asian features do carry a lot of weight for me.
Regardless, what are your thoughts on the matter? Do you think Asian women get freaked out by such a preference? Is it really any different from someone who prefers tall men, or smart women, or men with blue eyes, etc -- when does it cross the line from an acceptable preference to an all-out creepy fetish, in your opinion?
Many Asian women are reluctant to date white guys who CONSISTENTLY date nothing but Asian women because they fear being valued as fetish objects rather than as individuals. It is a reasonable fear.
I think a preference for Asian women differs from, say, a preference for blue eyes in that someone's ethnic identity comes packed with a lot more racist baggage than one's eye color. Asian women worry the white men will expect them to be meek and demure. They worry they are obsessed with thin, petite bodies. They worry they will be expected to be submissive and quiet. You get the picture.
Only you can know if that is true of you. But understand some of the fears Asian women have are justified.
I'm going to get some popcorn, sit back, and observe the mess this thread is going to become.
(Plus my gf is asian, so any further participation on my side will be a conflict of interest )
I guess it comes down to...do you love the woman for who she is AND because she is Asian, or do you love her despite who she is ONLY because she is Asian?
I love my wife for who she is...and she is Dutch. I loved the women who I dated because of who they were...not because they were some nationality or race or culture. That may have made them who they were, but it was not why I dated them.
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I'm an Asian woman so I feel qualified to answer this question!
I do raise an eyebrow if a guy ONLY dates Asian girls.
Superficially, everyone has a preference, but I don't like it when guys associate being Asian with being submissive.
I recently dated a guy who likes Asian girls and has dated several of them; it sort of bothered me, but I also knew he's date girls of all ethnicity, so it wasn't really an issue.
For the most part, I just think Asian women don't want to be viewed as some sort of collectible item. We want to be seen as individuals. We want guys to like us for us and not just because we are Asian.
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