I would like to gather what kind of reaction a husband would have whose wife is on a business trip with a colleague (male) and they take photos of each other.
condor, the premise of your original post wouldn't necessarily be a red flag, in that I've done it before too, gone on business trips with male co-workers, socializing after hours and taking pics. It never meant anything beyond being a tourist, networking or socializing.
But if your gut is telling you something, it's time to listen to it. More often than not, you'll find where there's smoke, there's fire.
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My wife is a sociable character and on the extravert side. She's a bubbly person. She says we are in a happy marriage, even though she has to travel a lot due to work (most of the time with a male colleague due to the nature of the work) and to pay off some debt.
But i cant seem to help feeling abit irritated in a sense. Just feel for a single guy sometimes the challenge of married woman who says she is happily married is a conquest of sorts.
I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having.
My wife is a sociable character and on the extravert side. She's a bubbly person. She says we are in a happy marriage, even though she has to travel a lot due to work (most of the time with a male colleague due to the nature of the work) and to pay off some debt.
But i cant seem to help feeling abit irritated in a sense. Just feel for a single guy sometimes the challenge of married woman who says she is happily married is a conquest of sorts.
I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having.
thanks
c
whether it's a valid feeling or not.. it's not for us to decide.. you have to decide for yourself if you want to continue feeling irritated/annoyed forever..
I am trying to understand whether me being irritated/annoyed is a valid feeling i am having.
Of course you do have the right to feel whatever you're feeling about it.
I tried to put myself in your shoes. I think. If my hubby and I were doing those same things on a regular basis, it wouldn't phase me too much. But. If those are things I am longing to do, or missing doing, with him...then it would phase me a great deal! And I would become anxious, to whatever degree.
That is. I think whatever my reaction to something like would be, it's be trying to tell me something important about my own deeper feelings about my marital relationship. Now, that could just be me -- when I'm feeling totally happy, content, satisfied, etc., there's not too much that can interrupt it.
As someone who likes to take pictures of everything I do, it depends. If it is a memory of THEIR time together, then maybe a problem. If it is a memory of each person's trip to certain areas, then probably not a problem.
If the pictures are of the other person, then probably a problem. If they are of the surroundings, then probably NOT a problem.
Creating memories TOGETHER...a problem.
Recording memories to share with friends and spouses...not a problem.
It all depends.
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I dont know guys. I mean I'm paranoid and jaded but even I would not condemn this wife at this point.
On a business trip - not in just any city but a touristy one, with colleagues. She wants to take the opportunity to look around. So she grabs the most tolerable of her colleagues and does the tourist thing. Beats doing it alone in a strange city. Plus those self taken headshots suck. Note that although they have taken pictures they didnt ask anyone to take a picture of them together in front of anything. There is a difference.
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It would bother me too. It sounds like an issue you should discuss with her. Let her know the feelings you are experiencing.
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Derek may have only 8 posts but his insight is right on the money.
If you have issues, discuss it with her. Otherwise continue to live with your doubt.
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