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FRANKLIN, I think I've figured out EXACTLY what the problem is. Here's a hypothetical situation:
You and a woman are out on a date.
FRANKLIN: I just got a haircut. Do you think it's too short?
Woman: Well, maybe just a little.
FRANKLIN: No, you're wrong. It's not too short.
Woman: But you said it might be.
FRANKLIN: My hair is not too short. My hair is fine. Why are you saying my hair is too short?
Woman makes a mental note never to call FRANKLIN again.
That's my theory. Now go ahead and tell me I'm wrong and you're right.
If a girl tells me my hair is to short then that is her opinion. I would not say she is wrong. I would most likely say OK. Oh I never been on a date before. I don't think I mention that.
I am guessing you are referring the comments about my clothes being too big. If so then it is completely different than an opinion about my hair. I know my suit size. I go to the suits store where I am friends with the owner. I always try suits on before I buy them, and I get the opinions about the size from the owner and his employees.
I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any.
I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any.
I do want advice, and I am taking it. I do plan getting new glasses. I am growing a beard.
Someone told me to try getting surgery for my ears. I said no. It is mine body so I have the right to say NO. If women don't want me because of who I am then they would not truly love me if I made such a major change. I was born like this. It's not like I am fat(no one is born to be 270 pounds, just example).
So basically you're an ugly black dude who's only attracted to hot white girls? Sounds like you've got a problem
The race of the woman does not matter to me. I just don't find many black women attractive. I have asked out two black girls, one Hispanic, and one Asian girl(not the same date). I am mostly attracted to white girls. I just been able to connect with them much better. I don't know why. I guess I just run into the right type of people.
Alright, so i hate to come off like an *******, but from that post you seemed like your biggest flaw was being too arrogant, in your post you made yourself seem like a perfect guy, I don't if that's how you normally act or what, but take a step back and see if maybe that's what's putting women off.
With your appearance, I think that the people at your church and your family etc. may have been sugar coating it a little bit, now the women who said you were the ugliest guy ever were also going to far, but based on those pictures I'd say you're somewhere in the middle. Certainly lose the glasses they make you look very nerdy.
But the most important thing is to keep trying, and don't get discouraged, the right girl is out there for everyone
Alright, so i hate to come off like an *******, but from that post you seemed like your biggest flaw was being too arrogant, in your post you made yourself seem like a perfect guy, I don't if that's how you normally act or what, but take a step back and see if maybe that's what's putting women off.
With your appearance, I think that the people at your church and your family etc. may have been sugar coating it a little bit, now the women who said you were the ugliest guy ever were also going to far, but based on those pictures I'd say you're somewhere in the middle. Certainly lose the glasses they make you look very nerdy.
But the most important thing is to keep trying, and don't get discouraged, the right girl is out there for everyone
I spoke the truth about myself. I have a good life. I don't have any drama. Things are going good. That's not being arrogant, that just stating how life is for me. I am not perfect, but at this time in my life I don't have problems. I am far from the perfect guy. I can't dance. I can't attract women. I don't have much muscle.
Sorry I can't lose glasses, but I will be getting new ones in three months. I can't wear contacts because my eyes are very sensitive. Anything that touches my eyes will cause them to be very irritated.
can you tell me what type of behavior this is? I noticed it with the op too. Is it arrogance? Or something else?
you're right, but Franklin, just try to be a little more open to ideas. I haven't read the whole thread, but every one i've read you've basically said no to. We might be critical, but we're trying to help you. Go back and read some of your responses from a third person perspective and you might understand what i mean
you're right, but Franklin, just try to be a little more open to ideas. I haven't read the whole thread, but every one i've read you've basically said no to. We might be critical, but we're trying to help you. Go back and read some of your responses from a third person perspective and you might understand what i mean
You might want to read my posts as well. I did not say no to everything. The advice I said no to is very reasonable. I don't have to get surgery. It is my body not yours. I am getting new glass, and a new haircut(I already said so many times already).
I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any.
I don't think he ever asked if his clothes looked too big.
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