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OK,

I exposed the affair to the OM's wife today. She was not the raving lunatic who might jeapordize my family the way he said. She was very respectful and thankful. We spoke for an hour on the phone. He portrayed this miserable woman who was pyscho to both me and my wife and she was the exact opposite. I shared the conversation with my wife and it was pretty much the nail in the coffin for her regarding this OM. My wife cried and horrible realizations that she was so completely deceived by this man, her soul mate. She is at rock bottom. She is humiliated beyond belief. I am not taking pleasure but I do know she needs to feel that. My question is.. now what? I plan on giving her alot of space for a couple of weeks to resolve things in her head. I am still not talking about "us" and will not. BTW the guys last e-mail to me describing his wife follows:

" I cannot guarantee that she will not go crazy after your wife and your kids if she identifies her. In fact, my biggest preocupation is her mental health, in addition to her physical health. She has esquizofrenia in her genes. Her aunt died crazy, and her father has been on psiquiatric medications for many years. She has had a couple of very scary episodios. Today her ginecologist ordered her to have a biopsy (she is waiting now for the person who schedule the biopsies to contact her). What she has has grown and does not look good. She is scared."

This was the most difficult thing to do in my life but it is done. His OM's reaction was not what he described and she was very intelligent and in touch with herself. This guy was truly full of Sh-t. NOW the affair is over. NOW my wife can heal and defog and wake up. She is extraordinarily guilty right now and that may be my biggest hurdle to reconciliation should I chose to.

It's a long road.....