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There you go... *again* thinking that the Internet > Real Life. Tsk Tsk.
I love after-thoughts.
Guess I'd better release that bunny back out into wild, and use the pot to cook in (no more TV dinners for me )...you're screwing up all my stalking plans.
I can't help it if I'm passionate and emotionally intelligent.
You seem like a person who experiences life through his senses quite a bit. Have you considered taking up a culinary class of some sort?
Could be one way to meet a lot of women, and better yet, you get to become familiar with one another whilst doing an activity together, since to know you is to like you, I can tell that much - so it gives you that kind opportunity...
As Island Girl pointed out, even if those people you would meet wouldn't click, they might in turn know others who might.
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If I see a profile ( not that I believe in the internet dating scene anymore ) and the profile is longgggggggggggg....then I just move on...
Most guys that have the long ones are trying to impress somebody...not me
Welcome to LS , Z , hope you get lots of great advice. We have plenty , haha..
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"how do you gently break up with someone???..
Thats like saying how do I gently drive a monster truck through a china/glass/crystal shop.
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Guess I'd better release that bunny back out into wild, and use the pot to cook in (no more TV dinners for me )...you're screwing up all my stalking plans.
Oh my, are you asking me to cook for you? O.o
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I can't help it if I'm passionate and emotionally intelligent.
You know what they say, imitation is the highest form of flattery. HA!
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You seem like a person who experiences life through his senses quite a bit. Have you considered taking up a culinary class of some sort?
Could be one way to meet a lot of women, and better yet, you get to become familiar with one another whilst doing an activity together, since to know you is to like you, I can tell that much - so it gives you that kind opportunity...
Actually, I'm looking into finding a ceramics studio. I love throwing pots on a wheel. It's like Zen for me. I'm kinda shy so unless I figure that one out, it may help, but only enough to get me to meet them... which I guess is half the battle (I just realized that I quote GI Joe. >.<)
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As Island Girl pointed out, even if those people you would meet wouldn't click, they might in turn know others who might.
You and Island Girl have had great ideas and you've got me thinking about several ways I could meet people. I just need to crack this shell I put myself into and get out and do something about it. That's the biggest hurdle for me right now.
If I see a profile ( not that I believe in the internet dating scene anymore ) and the profile is longgggggggggggg....then I just move on...
Most guys that have the long ones are trying to impress somebody...not me
Welcome to LS , Z , hope you get lots of great advice. We have plenty , haha..
I saw your apology immediately after. I just wanted to give you a dose of grief. I don't really go for profiles anymore anyway. I deleted my myspace and facebook profiles because I just didn't like being that "exposed" and being cyber-stalked is such a great exercise in anxiety. This why I've begun my search for "the real thing." I used to meet girls playing World of Warcraft which kinda taught me that the internet just doesn't seem to work for meeting someone... at least for me. The same can be said for all the major dating sites, again, for me.
I used to meet girls playing World of Warcraft which kinda taught me that the internet just doesn't seem to work for meeting someone... at least for me. The same can be said for all the major dating sites, again, for me.
Ooooohhh - red flag, red flag, red flag! Do you still play WoW and do you have a Level 80 Mage? Maybe its time to put away the games. You said you met "girls" that way but from the post, it sounds like you want a "woman" and the quality partner you seek isn't going to be that interested in a guy who plays video games.
I used to meet girls playing World of Warcraft which kinda taught me that the internet just doesn't seem to work for meeting someone... at least for me. The same can be said for all the major dating sites, again, for me.
And FYI: I don't play World of Warcraft anymore. I found that spending time doing something that ultimately gets me no-where in my life, does nothing for my depression and actually makes it worse. It's nice to have real hobbies like Nitro RC:
Ooooohhh - red flag, red flag, red flag! Do you still play WoW and do you have a Level 80 Mage? Maybe its time to put away the games. You said you met "girls" that way but from the post, it sounds like you want a "woman" and the quality partner you seek isn't going to be that interested in a guy who plays video games.
If this means anything : Alot of ppl develop * on line relationships * where they go ga ga over eachother and have never met. More often than not when they do meet its a * LETDOWN * I have had more letdowns than successes when it comes to online .
The best advice I can give for those who insist on the online life...Meet them and spend 6 months in real quality time getting to know them. Then you can find out if they are a serial Hoarder or psychotic killer....( or what have you )...lol...
If this means anything : Alot of ppl develop * on line relationships * where they go ga ga over eachother and have never met. More often than not when they do meet its a * LETDOWN * I have had more letdowns than successes when it comes to online .
The best advice I can give for those who insist on the online life...Meet them and spend 6 months in real quality time getting to know them. Then you can find out if they are a serial Hoarder or psychotic killer....( or what have you )...lol...
OR... you could just decide to come back to real life and reinvest all that time and energy back into yourself. Lord, there were so many things I could have done with the time and energy I spent online and in long distance relationships. Useful things such as:
Hobbies: Nitro RC, Making refrigerator magnets, etc. Therapy: Ridding myself of nerd-rage (very useful). Catching up on TV: Adult Swim, Mythbusters, Star Trek. Laundry: Leveling the mountain in the corner. Bathing: Finding someone I can conserve water with. Shopping: If you've been indoors for a decade, go out. There's some interesting stuff out there now. Cleaning: Yes, I'm talking about the leaning tower of pizza boxes. Dating: Looking for a partner that can actually touch you.
At least, that's what I decided to do. You are right, it's a let down most of the time and while Pixel-Love is fun in a fantasy sort of way, there is no substitute for the real thing.
This is not to say that the internet and online relationships don't have their value. It really is a personal decision. I just got tired of being the rat in the wheel and wanted off the electrodes that kept conditioning me to go back to real life.
Last edited by Zansatsu; 26th October 2009 at 10:34 PM..
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Zansatsu, I was once sensitive and strong, and what did it get me? Rejection, rudeness, rejection, evasiveness, rejection, unkindness, rejection... oh, and did I mention rejection???
To all those women out there who SAY they're looking for a nice guy, I say talk to the middle finger.
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