[Zansatsu]

"All I've wanted my entire life is a wife that I can get my life started with."

Yes, I know I ended the sentence in a preposition. It's the idea that I was given, I don't know when, but it always sounded good to me. I'm single, 30, no children, never married, doing *ok* financially, educated, fit, and I actually care about bettering myself. I have ambition. I don't want to be the man that never changes because he is too proud. I actually care if the woman I am with is satisfied in bed. I do argue my position if I feel I am right, otherwise I will let it go. If I am proven wrong, I may pout, but will eventually accept that I'm wrong. I do care what my partner (must be female) thinks. I want a relationship where we are open and completely honest with each other: IE, no secrets. I am currently in therapy trying to resolve past issues so I can be a more free and clear thinking person. I appreciate rationality but I love humor. I know that I'm not always right, but I love a good debate (occasionally). I love sex. I love affection. I am Cuban descent, first generation American (I look bone friggin white). I like kids. I know how to cook. I am technically inclined and a Mr. Fixit of sorts. I can appreciate the finest wines and cheeses, or enjoy bottom rung beer. I can show my affection openly, or be calm and collected. I am a problem solver. I enjoy bringing a smile to my lady's face. I am sensitive and I can cry at a "chick flick"... if you want to belittle me for this, bring it. I feel like I am doing everything right, but I just can't seem to find someone who will actually show genuine interest. I am a good person. I love animals and I try not to kill bugs unless I have to (IE: she demands it). I own a gun, but only to defend myself and those I love. I think that the world we live in is crazy and I dream (note the usage of dream) of a world where people wake up. I am shy to start, but open in good company. I don't do drugs. I do drink, but in moderation. I do not smoke. I can write. I can sing. I love music. I enjoy entertainment. I love to dance. I am good with machines (computers, cars, etc). I love art. I appreciate a good conversation. Sex is more to me than just pleasure: it is a BOND. I enjoy someone's pleasure, and if she enjoys mine, I enjoy hers, then she enjoys mine... you see where this is going. I have a scenic view from my porch. I have a robot that keeps my apartment clean. I enjoy many spices from many cultures in my cooking and relish them all. I have fastidious hygene: body and dental. I keep my apartment neat. I am romantic and love tender quiet moments with candles, incense, and soft music. The female body is the most beautiful image I have ever seen...

So my question is... why am I alone?

NOTE: I want this to be a positive first post. Struggling with depression, I can understand the cynics and that they may want to debunk me. I already live in a world with shades of grey and I can appreciate your position, but I'm trying to restore some semblance of hope to my life. A world where there is nothing of the above for me is a very boring world indeed, and I refuse to believe that of the BILLIONS of human beings on this planet, that there isn't at least ONE woman that can agree and enjoy everything I said about myself above. That's all I want, just one...

To the mods: I'm a newb here, so I apologize if this is in the wrong section. Please feel free to move and correct me in the ways you see fit. Thanks.

[Awesome Username]

If you are a pisces than I believe in astrology.

If you are not a pisces, then I will remain a nonbeliever.

If you're a scorpio then I'll be a half-believer.

[2sunny]

i really wish you were 20 years older...

you will find someone when the time is right. if you are all the things listed - some gal will be very fortunate to be with you... in the meantime - enjoy your own company.

[Enema]

I'm bored already.

Let's see how your future posts go.

[deux ex machina]

Originally Posted by Zansatsu

"All I've wanted my entire life is a wife that I can get my life started with."

Yes, I know I ended the sentence in a preposition. It's the idea that I was given, I don't know when, but it always sounded good to me. I'm single, 30, no children, never married, doing *ok* financially, educated, fit,

Single male, 30 years old, no kids (that I know of), no ex drama, employed, average build,

and I actually care about bettering myself. I have ambition.

I daydream a lot.

I don't want to be the man that never changes because he is too proud.

I'm moody.

I actually care if the woman I am with is satisfied in bed.

I want sex.

I do argue my position if I feel I am right, otherwise I will let it go. If I am proven wrong, I may pout, but will eventually accept that I'm wrong.

I'm argumentative, and I hold a grudge.

I do care what my partner (must be female) thinks. I want a relationship where we are open and completely honest with each other: IE, no secrets.

I'm paranoid.

I am currently in therapy trying to resolve past issues so I can be a more free and clear thinking person. I appreciate rationality but I love humor.

Don't be uptight.

I know that I'm not always right, but I love a good debate (occasionally).

I'm argumentative.

I love sex. I love affection.

I am quite horny.

I am Cuban descent,

[*meow* ]

first generation American (I look bone friggin white).

I stay indoors a lot (porn...?).

I like kids. I know how to cook.

I can warm-up a mean TV dinner.

I am technically inclined and a Mr. Fixit of sorts. I can appreciate the finest wines and cheeses, or enjoy bottom rung beer.

I like food.

I can show my affection openly, or be calm and collected.

I am emotionally volatile.

I am a problem solver.

I'm stubborn.

I enjoy bringing a smile to my lady's face. I am sensitive and I can cry at a "chick flick"... if you want to belittle me for this, bring it.

[It's okay.]

I feel like I am doing everything right, but I just can't seem to find someone who will actually show genuine interest. I am a good person. I love animals and I try not to kill bugs unless I have to (IE: she demands it).

I kill on command.

I own a gun, but only to defend myself and those I love.

I'm a gun-nut.

[volatile, too...]

I think that the world we live in is crazy and I dream (note the usage of dream) of a world where people wake up.

I'm into "The Matrix".

I am shy to start, but open in good company.

I'm sullen.

I don't do drugs. I do drink, but in moderation. I do not smoke. I can write. I can sing. I love music. I enjoy entertainment. I love to dance. I am good with machines (computers, cars, etc). I love art. I appreciate a good conversation.

All Work And No Play...

Sex is more to me than just pleasure: it is a BOND. I enjoy someone's pleasure, and if she enjoys mine, I enjoy hers, then she enjoys mine...

I am incredibly, incredibly horny.

you see where this is going.

[I believe I do ]

I have a scenic view from my porch.

I can show you my place.

I have a robot that keeps my apartment clean.

I have myself a Roomba. Jealous?

I enjoy many spices from many cultures in my cooking and relish them all.

I like food.

I have fastidious hygene: body and dental. I keep my apartment neat.

I'm a neat freak.

I am romantic and love tender quiet moments with candles, incense, and soft music. The female body is the most beautiful image I have ever seen...

Please dear god I am so, so horny...

[deux ex machina]

So my question is... why am I alone?

NOTE: I want this to be a positive first post. Struggling with depression, I can understand the cynics and that they may want to debunk me. I already live in a world with shades of grey and I can appreciate your position, but I'm trying to restore some semblance of hope to my life. A world where there is nothing of the above for me is a very boring world indeed, and I refuse to believe that of the BILLIONS of human beings on this planet, that there isn't at least ONE woman that can agree and enjoy everything I said about myself above. That's all I want, just one...

Seriously, I do think you sound great.

A thoughtful man with a lot to offer the right lucky woman.

Best of luck to you.

[EricaH329]

If only there were more men out there like you!

[Zansatsu]

@ deux: You had me rolling.

***Single male, 30 years old, no kids (that I know of), no ex drama, employed, average build,
No kids. I'm careful, I guess you could say paranoid. (Damn you)
Weight training, trying to be "cut."


***I daydream a lot.
I know... but reality isn't much fun. lol


***I'm moody.
Trying not to be, hence the therapy. "Well, I got better." (<3 Monty Python)


***I want sex.
Look up Male on Wikipedia.


***I'm argumentative...
I'm Cuban, and passionate, but I will shut my mouth when I'm wrong.

***and I hold a grudge.
Therapy...

***I'm paranoid.
It's not my fault my parents have a refugee mentality. But again, see therapy. A song by Tom Petty comes to mind...


***Don't be uptight.
Ther... I know.


***I'm argumentative.
You already said this. Someone sounds like a broken MP3 (yes it's a Futurama reference).


***I am quite horny.
See "male."


***[*meow* ]
I am a cat person. :P


***I stay indoors a lot (porn...?).
UV radiation causes cancer, but I do hike. Again see male... You like making me repeat myself. But seriously, I'm in IT, ie: computers... so yes, indoors.


***I can warm-up a mean TV dinner.
I can make dinner and freeze it for a rainy day if that's what you mean. HA!


***I like food.
Yes, that was the general point.


***I am emotionally volatile.
Volatile is such a harsh word. I prefer passionate and emotionally intelligent.


***I'm stubborn.
Cuban.


***[It's okay.]
I know! Thank you.


***I kill on command.
I work in IT so I know the 'kill' command too. Oh and first-person shooters rock.


***I'm a gun-nut.
No. I own A gun, singular. Don't put words in my mouth.


***[volatile, too...]
See Harsh.

***I'm into "The Matrix".
Excellent movies aren't they?

***I'm sullen.
No, I just like to observe the situation before I open my mouth just long enough to change feet.


***All Work And No Play...
Working the job I work, if I didn't play, I'd probably be in a padded room with a straight jacket.


***I am incredibly, incredibly horny.
Broken MP3...


***[I believe I do ]
I'm glad we understand each other.


***I can show you my place.
Such beauty and no one to share it with.


***I have myself a Roomba. Jealous?
His name is Butch.


***I'm a neat freak.
Not a freak, I just like a clean place. (Shut it)


***Please dear god I am so, so horny...
You too, huh?

But seriously. Thank you for the laughs. You had me dying.

[Island Girl]

Originally Posted by 2sunny

i really wish you were 20 years older...

you will find someone when the time is right. if you are all the things listed - some gal will be very fortunate to be with you... in the meantime - enjoy your own company.

No kidding sunny!! Wow, right?

OP -- you are getting to an age where women truly appreciate who you are and what you bring to the table. The young rarely appreciate such substance. Women in their 30s will be there for the pickings. Truly - you mark my words.
Keep going with your therapy and resolve the issues you know you have so you'll be absolutely ready when she appears.

You sound absolutely fantastic and are obviously intelligent as well as eloquent. You are knockin' my socks off. And that is tough to do, believe me!

[deux ex machina]

You know how to spar.

You're welcome, darling.



There are impressions I've gotten about you from your post.

I'll be back in a little while to post those...

[Island Girl]

Originally Posted by deux ex machina

You know how to spar.

The exchange is fantastic. What a man with a brain, eh deux?

[MrFun]

Originally Posted by Awesome Username

If you are a pisces than I believe in astrology.

If you are not a pisces, then I will remain a nonbeliever.

If you're a scorpio then I'll be a half-believer.

You're awesome

[boogieboy]

What the hell? No ones helping this guy.

I know where to start Zans, exactly what do you do to meet women, and what are your stats? (height, weight)

[Mary3]

Do you put this HUGE list in a profile of some sort ?

When you go on a date do you spend the whole time outlining how wonderful you are ?

You don't need all these words to prove who you are. You just ARE wonderful if you are...( I am not saying you are wonderful , only that to tout your own horn = BORING )

Did it ever occur to you that you might be boring the girl ? If you are great she wont need to be given a list. There will be C H E M I S T R Y . If there is not , well you will be posting on here about whats wrong.

When you go on a date , let HER talk . Be a listener.

I once had a guy talk ONE HOUR AND HALF , non stop , about what he owned . how smart he was , how handsome he thought he was , what jerk the neighbors were , ect , ect .ect. I was like " HEY you wasted 90 minutes of my Cell minutes ! " ( Well to myself of course )

I don't know you and I don't know what you say on dates. I won't judge that you toot your own horn ,,,,but do you ???

[deux ex machina]

Originally Posted by Island Girl

The exchange is fantastic. What a man with a brain, eh deux?

Yes, I agree...


I wouldn't have known it from his initial post, though. I really think we can help him.

Hope he comes back.