Absolutely Dexter. In fact I myself have two friends who have a 50/50 and it works great, inconvenient sometimes, but the kids are good. It seems to get more difficult as they become teens regarding schedules. To me, the only way a 50/50 works is if both parents are fairly amicable and able to support the children equally finacially, educationally, and emotionally. In fact I know that the courts will not even consider this unless all of those facotrs are present because otherwise it creates a continual and complicated conflict for the children.
That being said...my ex just never had any parenting skills, never was able to support himself, took drugs, etc. My daughter just couldnt live there half the time. lol. No way. BUT: I tell you , I worry all the time and wish he was better...if something happened to me , you know - I 'd like to know she had another reliable parent to go to. But she doesnt.
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Are you insane or just completely obtuse? I pay $150/month for tuition for private school, $200/month for daycare, at least $700 for food and hygiene stuff (two kids) including school lunches. That's over $1000 right there. That doesn't include clothes, school uniforms, the utilities they use, school supplies, dance classes, swimming classes, fundraisers, and Heaven forbid - money to do activities with the kids, etc. Kids are expensive. Get a grip. (In case you're wondering, I only get HALF of what you pay and work my face off).
then you needed a better lawyer. I pay half the school expenses(including school lunches & extra curricular costs), half of daycare, half of all uncovered medical bills for them, and I pay ALL the premiums for medical insurance for them.
And putting them in private school is YOUR choice. the utilities they use only add about 5% to the costs you'd have to pay for just yourself since you need them anyway.
and money to do activities with the kids? you mean a father is suppose to pay money so the mother can enjoy her time with the kids on her time?
then you needed a better lawyer. I pay half the school expenses(including school lunches & extra curricular costs), half of daycare, half of all uncovered medical bills for them, and I pay ALL the premiums for medical insurance for them.
Yeah and my ex is supposed to pay 80% of unreimbursed medical expenses, but lucky for him, it's so little that I rarely ask him to pay anything at all. I pay the health insurance, all of their clothing, etc.
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And putting them in private school is YOUR choice. the utilities they use only add about 5% to the costs you'd have to pay for just yourself since you need them anyway.
Actually it worked out to be cheaper than paying the daycare cost (I'd have to use a dsifferent provider) than if public school was chosen.
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and money to do activities with the kids? you mean a father is suppose to pay money so the mother can enjoy her time with the kids on her time?
No, but I'm just saying that while you are busy whining you can take comfort in the fact that your kids will benefit from the activity whether or not you fee like you should pay for it.
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So no, I'm not insane at all
That's debatable. Maybe not crazy- just entitled, arrogant, narcisistic.
No, but I'm just saying that while you are busy whining you can take comfort in the fact that your kids will benefit from the activity whether or not you fee like you should pay for it.
whining?...LOL. I have said that I pay my support and am glad to.
and as bad as my Xwife is, she at least, unlike you, wouldn't expect me to pay for her and the kids to do something together. I have to pay, and pay gladly, for when I have them. I shouldn't pay for her to have fun with them.....geez...even she realizes that.
It does suck Dexter. YOU would be able to offer your kids a lot. YOU would be able to avoid and diffuse conflict with your ex. YOU would figure it out. But your ex wont. And for 50/50, it takes both.
I will never understand divorced parents who dont understand this basic concept: If you have an ex who loves your children, even if you personally cannot stand him/her , if they are capable of sharing the responsibility and love for the kids...let them. Because if something happens to you, you at least know your kids still have a full and real parent. By not having 50/50 its something we all risk. And in my case, its a given - he just cant do it. But I am envious of every divorced parent wo has an ex that COULD take care of the kids and wants to
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