I wish I could take credit for it, but it comes from the offices of the career centre of one of Canada's top Universities . All the more reason, in my opinion, to take the advice.
I wish I could take credit for it, but it comes from the offices of the career centre of one of Canada's top Universities . All the more reason, in my opinion, to take the advice.
And LB - Good luck with the job hunting!
Thanks! Your idea makes sense, that's definately something to think about.
LB, I URGE you to re-evaluate the situation with your past employer. These topics are never easy to face, but it's something working adults need to look at honestly for the sake of their futures and careers.
I don't want to press you to tell us what mistake was made on your part. But please think honestly about the mistake and how it could have been seen by your superiors. Remember that they are responsible and liable for what you do. Ask yourself if you handled things the best way you could have. Maybe they are a-holes, I don't know, but you should be more concerned about your part in that situation.
I fear that upon hearing criticism, or being reprimanded you may have shut down or been visibly angry.
Next time an issue arises at work calm down, remember that it isn't personal and try to resolve the issue. If you feel like you are being blamed for a mistake say to your boss "I can see that my (whatever error/issue) has had an impact on your confidence in me. I value my job here very much and want to show you I'm a valuable employee. What can I do to demonstrate that I'm a hard working, great employee" or something acknowledging the issue and showing your desire to repair it.
Careers are a huge and important part of our lives LB. There will be bad days and there will be people who will treat you unfairly. You have to power through this stuff like a champ
I know that this was your first job after collage, I know it can be tough. But for your sake, try to keep an open mind about what happened and learn from it.
And again, good luck with the new job. Is this the one with the women in need?
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LB, I URGE you to re-evaluate the situation with your past employer. These topics are never easy to face, but it's something working adults need to look at honestly for the sake of their futures and careers.
I don't want to press you to tell us what mistake was made on your part. But please think honestly about the mistake and how it could have been seen by your superiors. Remember that they are responsible and liable for what you do. Ask yourself if you handled things the best way you could have. Maybe they are a-holes, I don't know, but you should be more concerned about your part in that situation.
I fear that upon hearing criticism, or being reprimanded you may have shut down or been visibly angry.
But for your sake, try to keep an open mind about what happened and learn from it.
All fantastic points, Allina...and what I was trying to get at without articulating it the way you did. (Have you moved into HR? )
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LB, I URGE you to re-evaluate the situation with your past employer. These topics are never easy to face, but it's something working adults need to look at honestly for the sake of their futures and careers.
I don't want to press you to tell us what mistake was made on your part. But please think honestly about the mistake and how it could have been seen by your superiors. Remember that they are responsible and liable for what you do. Ask yourself if you handled things the best way you could have. Maybe they are a-holes, I don't know, but you should be more concerned about your part in that situation.
I fear that upon hearing criticism, or being reprimanded you may have shut down or been visibly angry.
Next time an issue arises at work calm down, remember that it isn't personal and try to resolve the issue. If you feel like you are being blamed for a mistake say to your boss "I can see that my (whatever error/issue) has had an impact on your confidence in me. I value my job here very much and want to show you I'm a valuable employee. What can I do to demonstrate that I'm a hard working, great employee" or something acknowledging the issue and showing your desire to repair it.
Careers are a huge and important part of our lives LB. There will be bad days and there will be people who will treat you unfairly. You have to power through this stuff like a champ
I know that this was your first job after collage, I know it can be tough. But for your sake, try to keep an open mind about what happened and learn from it.
And again, good luck with the new job. Is this the one with the women in need?
I tried everything you mentioned. But I have been trying to learn from what happened and do the best I can at another job.
This isn't the domestic violence shelter job, it's an outpatient drug/alcohol counselor. I got a letter saying that they hired someone else for the shelter job, but that's okay because I wasn't interested in the job after the interview. Outpatient counseling is more up my alley.
A job at a women's shelter isn't going to pay peanuts. It wouldn't even be worth the Masters Degree you earned to work there. Not getting it will probably be a blessing in disguise.
A job at a women's shelter isn't going to pay peanuts. It wouldn't even be worth the Masters Degree you earned to work there. Not getting it will probably be a blessing in disguise.
Yep. The interviewers probably knew that. My fiance said they would probably be afraid I'd quit if something better came along (which I would.)
I'm sure they hired some girl with a bachelors degree straight out of school. It would be nice and interesting work but the hours were terrible too.
I very much doubt that your previous bosses were a-holes and were picking on you. More than likely your performance wasn't up to their standards but you prefer not to face up to that. It is a lot easier for you to blame someone else.
Also, your new interview doesn't sound too promising. The fact that they didn't ask about why you left/got fired from your previous job means that they were not all that interested in you. Sometimes interviewers decide that you are the wrong candidate early on and the chat away just to fill up the time.
I don't know, like I said before, he didn't ask me about it. If he wants to call my ex-boss fine, however he didn't ask me if he could (although I know he doesn't have to) or why I left my job, ect. So I'm just guessing he doesn't care.
LB, I highly doubt that. He may already know- you would have put your previous employer on your resume, so he may have already contacted them.
I always always always ask for a reference from every job I leave, although I have never left under bad circumstances.
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Originally Posted by allina
LB, I URGE you to re-evaluate the situation with your past employer. These topics are never easy to face, but it's something working adults need to look at honestly for the sake of their futures and careers.
I don't want to press you to tell us what mistake was made on your part. But please think honestly about the mistake and how it could have been seen by your superiors. Remember that they are responsible and liable for what you do. Ask yourself if you handled things the best way you could have. Maybe they are a-holes, I don't know, but you should be more concerned about your part in that situation.
I fear that upon hearing criticism, or being reprimanded you may have shut down or been visibly angry.
Next time an issue arises at work calm down, remember that it isn't personal and try to resolve the issue. If you feel like you are being blamed for a mistake say to your boss "I can see that my (whatever error/issue) has had an impact on your confidence in me. I value my job here very much and want to show you I'm a valuable employee. What can I do to demonstrate that I'm a hard working, great employee" or something acknowledging the issue and showing your desire to repair it.
Careers are a huge and important part of our lives LB. There will be bad days and there will be people who will treat you unfairly. You have to power through this stuff like a champ
I know that this was your first job after collage, I know it can be tough. But for your sake, try to keep an open mind about what happened and learn from it.
And again, good luck with the new job. Is this the one with the women in need?
Fantastic advice allina and very well put.
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I very much doubt that your previous bosses were a-holes and were picking on you. More than likely your performance wasn't up to their standards but you prefer not to face up to that. It is a lot easier for you to blame someone else.
Also, your new interview doesn't sound too promising. The fact that they didn't ask about why you left/got fired from your previous job means that they were not all that interested in you. Sometimes interviewers decide that you are the wrong candidate early on and the chat away just to fill up the time.
LB, I highly doubt that. He may already know- you would have put your previous employer on your resume, so he may have already contacted them.
I always always always ask for a reference from every job I leave, although I have never left under bad circumstances.
Yeah, he very well could have just already contacted them or just went ahead and contacted them himself. Well, if he did that's fine because I don't know that my ex employers will give me a bad reference. I did good work and am a good counselor.
But I just have to hope for the best and keep applying to places!
You have crossed two big hurdles. You have made a good impression. You are deemed qualified.
Now you just have to prove that to someone else.
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. All the more reason, in my opinion, to take the advice.
(Have you moved into HR? 
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