[Mishileena]

Ok, First I want to say that he is not a jerk or any other bad name given to most liars. We have been together for almost 2 years and during those 2 years have had our "tragic family moments", all of which he handled with dignity and care and didnt have to. We are not married and he could have walked away, and in my opinion if he were any of those bad names liars are given he could have easily walked away and never looked back.

Now, when we first met it was a 6 month long distance thing where we talked on the phone almost every day and had only really met in person for a brief 3 weeks before the long distance thing started. And didn't start actually dating until he moved to where I lived after the 6 months. We talked about everything...what we liked and disliked...yada, yada...basically we probably asked each other every question possible by the time the real relationship started (I dont count the 6 months of the LD relationship in our 2 years together)

So, we did start off very quickly after he moved to where I was and we moved in together within a couple months...I know bad idea. Anyways, a year later, we bought a house in Nova Scotia and I came across a Phone book (yes a little black one...lol) I thought GREAT! and started to flip through it, only to find out that basically his entire past is a big fat lie. He told me he was an orphan and a bunch of other stuff and i see in this book "dad" and "brother" etc....Well I freaked out and emailed him...I am not so good at face to face. I didn't tell him I knew EVERYTHING (I called his brother and got a whole lot of info...not all good) and made him explain the numbers and names in the book.

I almost died when the first thing he said to me was "I don't know where to start...I have been liar my whole life and I don't know where the truth ends and the lies begin". All I wanted him to explain was the book, I wasnt expecting him to lay it all out on the table. Admitted to a family and lots of other stuff.

So my question is - Since he admitted to me on his own alot of the stuff should I trust that he will be semi truthful in the future? Or Am I to prepare for the ride of my life? There are alot of things I know about from his brother that he didnt admit to, but I am hoping that since the door has been opened maybe he will start to tell more honestly some of these things without me having to attack him with the knowledge I already have.

I know that compulsive liars will lie further if they feel attacked and so I want to avoid this at all costs, believe me since this has happened I have been doing alot of reading. I really love him, and I am trying to convince him that I love him for who he is nw and not for who he was many years ago, but a liar has a hard time differentiating circumstances and just does it because thats what they do. I am very confused and a bit scared but I dont want to leave especially if this is because of some kind of disorder, I would feel like I am abandoning him right when he was coming clean.

Help please tell me I am not the only one out there with dilemma.