a huge part of why i held on to my unstable husband for so long was because i felt like he was the only man that would accept my line of work. i do nude modeling and web cam shows for a living and i've noticed that this is a huge issue as i am now starting to date. how do i tell guys what i do without running them away or becoming a sexual object to them?
guys, would u consider dating a girl who does this for a living? better yet, would you MARRY a girl that does this? input plz
guys, would u consider dating a girl who does this for a living? better yet, would you MARRY a girl that does this? input plz
I would not be happy with the nude modelling but if it is something like Playboy (meaning only you naked, and no guys are involved), then I think I could deal with it. But I'd have to go to a shooting with you to understand how this is done and what the pictures would look like before I could say for sure if I could handle it.
The web cam shows would be too much for me though. I am very possessive. It would already be bad enough that other guys could look at pictures of my naked gf. But allowing them to interact with you, even if it is only in cyberspace, would drive me crazy. I would consider that cheating, even though it is your job and nothing personal.
The best thing in your situation is probably to look for guys who aren't jealous and possessive like I am. I am sorry that I have no better advice.
It's also a topic that you might not want to bring up on a first date. However, it is better to know sooner rather than later if the guy can handle it or not, before you get attached to him.
I would marry a girl who DID it, no problem. One who DOES it? Maybe, but not likely. Seems like there's a time to grow up. Can't do that work forever can you? Not many 40 year olds on LiveSex dot com are there?
Can you actually make a living doing that? More than if you were waiting tables or delivering auto parts?
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I wouldn't rule it out but I would want to know what "modeling" meant. If, for example, it meant prostitution, I doubt I would be OK with it. I might be able to accept something like prostitution in someone's past life but I would doubt I could be comfortable with it within married life. Though obviously many men can be comfortable with it since all types of sex workers frequently have husbands. I don't mean to be judgmental, just airing a personal preference. I would need to know the boundaries in the work and to think deeply about them.
I agree, it would depend what's involved. For the modelling, if it was just "titty shots" that's probably not a big deal. Anything more "internal" than that, and I'd start having problems with it. With the webcam shows: hmm. That's another issue, especially if it involves more than just simply taking off clothes. The more it starts to resemble "gyno row" at a strip club, again, I'd start to have a problem with it.
Again, this is just my take. I know a few married women who are involved in burlesque shows, but that's something different. It's cheeky and titillating without being overtly sexual, plus there's a bit of art to it.
So, it really depends exactly what your work involves. Context is everything.
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Hey, if I met a 50 year old that could make a living doing that, more power to her and let's saddle up the chariot team. It's time for a gladiator movie
As long as she wasn't having sex with guys as part of the webcam, then yes, I'd date her and (assuming things went well) marry her. And before anyone says it, yes, I know it's a double standard for me to say "I wouldn't want her having sex with another man, but another woman's okay", but, for some reason, I have a problem with one and not the other. Just as long as nothing was happening off-camera behind my back, with either sex.
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guys, would u consider dating a girl who does this for a living? better yet, would you MARRY a girl that does this? input plz
I have dated and I would consider marrying, but she would have to retire from that line of work. The cam girls I've dated have made really nice girlfriends.
a huge part of why i held on to my unstable husband for so long was because i felt like he was the only man that would accept my line of work. i do nude modeling and web cam shows for a living and i've noticed that this is a huge issue as i am now starting to date. how do i tell guys what i do without running them away or becoming a sexual object to them?
guys, would u consider dating a girl who does this for a living? better yet, would you MARRY a girl that does this? input plz
Date - Yes.
Marry - I don't know about that...she'd have to be an absolutely amazing person.
No dating...I almost dated a woman artist, whose specialty was nude male models, with erect penises....I always wondered how they got erect and what happened afterwards....I didn't have enough trust to deal with that.
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I am sorry that I have no better advice. 
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