[JamesUme]

Thanks again for all your comments people!


After careful thought, feedback and multiple views of my situation.. I have narrowed it down to one important thing.

“Will she step her foot down with her parents?”

If I continue to see that she cannot grow up and tell her parents to back off, there is nothing I can do but leave. She is a grown adult and is fully capable of making her own decisions. I can deal with parent’s giving their opinions, but I cannot deal with them directing their child’s life. (Especially at this age). I cannot tell her how to be with her parents, therefore I will only wait patiently to see if she strengthens her backbone and tells her parent’s how it is. If it makes her happy, she will have to stay strong regardless of how many guilt trips they put her through. I will know the day she has grown up when I hear something similar directed towards her parents:

“I’ve taken your comments into consideration, however this is what makes me happy and I’m going to do it. Your support would be greatly appreciated but I’m not seeking your approval”

[OpenGL]

Exactly, trust me on this if she doesn't grow a backbone break up with her. Once you're in your next relationship and her parents treat you right you will feel a lot better.

[001bh]

Being half Asian, and having lived in 5 different Asian countries before going to the states for college; I've seen this **** before and it is really sad. She may or may not be able to stand up to it. You need to make it clear that if she can't stand up to her parents and if she truly loves you that she has to choose you or the parents. You're both adults and you both can make rational, sound decisions. Do what you think is right. If I were in your shoes I would tell them that this is f*&%^ing America where individuals have rights, and money and careers are not the deal breakers for relationships. They don't own her, but if you lose at least you come out on top and them shallow with the short end of the stick.