Ugh *sniff* grr

I'm fed up of neeeveeer being chatted up or flirted with by guys. I'd like a relationship...but also even to just be made feel somewhat attractive by guys in bars etc.
(And I may be oldschool, but I do think they should be the initiators

I have tried to do it in the past and felt I just came across as desperate...)
Also, I *know* I should just 'let it happen' because loves comes when you're not looking...but i've been not looking for quite a long time and it's gotten me nowhere!
Anywho, I've never really asked guys what are their first impressions of my looks (as that's what's so important for that vital wink lol!) and what it is about me that is apparently unattractive...
Thanks for any help...I'd be fascinated
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