[TudorII]

So my wife is pregnant and my mom is thrilled. Problem is my mother wants to be involved more than my wife would care for her to. My mother continually gets her feelings hurt because my wife won't let her see her belly, touch her belly, go shopping with her, etc. The big blow up came when my mom for some reason felt she should be able to go to the Dr's appointments with us and my wife said absolutely not. I have 3 sisters two of which have had multiple pregnancies and my mom went to almost all the Dr appointments with them so I think she believes that is normal. She gave both me and the wife a mouthful about being excluded which was out of line IMO.

I find myself in the middle and my wife and my mother's relationship being strained with this baby coming. I am not about to tell my wife to give if she is not comfortable with any of this. I have confronted my mom and told her she needs to back off and reminded her that while I am her son and she will be no less involved in the baby's life but my wife is modest and doesn't like people touching her much less being in the Dr. appointment while she is being examined. So question is, how can help get the two of them to enjoy this together instead of my wife being pissed off at my mom for guilting her and my mom feeling hurt and left out? I'm too easy going for this nonsense and want to find some middle ground for both of them.