[Island Girl]

Originally Posted by Ruby Slippers

I said I had a great time, too, but, "I want to be friends and neighbors. It's a lost art." He said he agreed with that. Seemed to take it gracefully.

I am so glad it seemed to go well.

Let's hope it sticks!

[Trialbyfire]

The next time he "busts out a move", that's when you shut him down.

"I wasn't kidding about wanting to only be friends. While I enjoy your company, I'm working through some things in my life which doesn't include anything more than friendships. I hope you can understand this."

[Island Girl]

Originally Posted by Trialbyfire

The next time he "busts out a move", that's when you shut him down.

"I wasn't kidding about wanting to only be friends."

I'd say the above but leave no room for a difference later on.

"I wasn't kidding or being coy when I told you I just want to be friends with you. We are neighbors and we are having a friendship - but that is all I ever want it to be EVER. Just friends."

[Ruby Slippers]

^ I have said ALL THAT, and more. He will lay off for a while, then try again! Man, the dude is persistent. He did say he respects my decision, but his actions do not line up with that.

I never should have given him homemade strawberry pie and pizza. That probably did him in.

I guess I need to have a talk with him.

We get along really well. I think it would be a shame to stop being friends completely. I'm sad that it might have to come to that.

[Island Girl]

Originally Posted by Ruby Slippers

^ I have said ALL THAT, and more. He will lay off for a while, then try again! Man, the dude is persistent. He did say he respects my decision, but his actions do not line up with that.

When he raises the subject again why don't you say, "why do you keep doing trying to make a move to date me or "get together" that way?"

And then say nothing - let him be uncomfortable or whatever but don't let him out of it.

Maybe if he feels some of the same uncomfortable feeling that he makes you feel (not your problem so you shouldn't feel uncomfortable) then he'll be reluctant to tempt that same reaction and just stop.


And RS you should have known! Strawberry pie??!! I'd probably end up making a move and I'm not even gay.

Seriously my mom gets men to do all kinds of things by giving them baked goods. That probably got him even more stuck on the possibilities...!

[Ruby Slippers]

I'm from Texas... y'all. We were chatting on his porch today, and he said, "I'd empty my wallet for a woman with a sweet Southern accent."

So, strawberry pie from the girl next door + sweet Southern accent = guy next door's dream?

Yeah, this is pretty obvious.

I am the girl next door. haha

[Ruby Slippers]

Originally Posted by Island Girl

Seriously my mom gets men to do all kinds of things by giving them baked goods. That probably got him even more stuck on the possibilities...!

I even put homemade whipped cream on top. Yum.