[lovekillsslowly]

Hi All ~ I'm really feeling the urge to call xMM today and I am trying to fight my way through it.

I keep telling myself that if I call he will simply not answer or he will take my call and tell me that he is busy working and will call me back later and that call will never come.

So in order to not break down and call him I'm trying to remind myself of all the things he said to me that I believed at the time and now know that they were just something he said in the heat of the moment that most likely he never meant.

So I'm asking all you former OW's what are some of the lines you heard from your xMM while you were involved with him.

Here are a few of the ones I was told -

"I want to wake up next to you and smell you on my sheets, I want to cook with you, I want to clean house with you....I want to run away with you."

"I wish I could carry you around in my pocket while I'm at work"

"I wish I could pack you in my suitcase and take you with me" (in regards to going on his family vacation)

"I miss you already and I'm not even gone yet"

"I'll be thinking about you the whole time I'm gone."

"I enjoy spending time with you."

"Nobody makes me want to f**k like you do. Only you do that to me."

"I've wanted you for so long."

"Someday you and I are going to be on that white sandy beach with that clear blue ocean. We may be in our 80's and in wheel-chairs but we will get there someday."

"They're playing our song" (this was said to Clay Walker's "Fall")

"You've made me feel things I thought I'd never feel again. You brought me back to life. You make me really happy. And for that I thank you."

and my all time favorite - (drum-roll please) - "Damn girl you fit like a glove."

What a pathetic fool I was to believe any of that! It makes me sick insdie of myself to think I was that STUPID!!!

I asked him one time "did you ever mean any of those things that you said to me????" And his response to me was "well I meant them when I said them."

Gee - that's like writing a check and the check bounces and so you tell the business owner "well the money was in the account when I wrote it." LOL!!

My sisters favorite from her xMM was when he told her "I will love you till the day I die." Well guess what???? He's still alive and he's not with her anymore!!!

Pigs I tell you!!! They are all a bunch of Pig F***ers!!!!

And I'm the IDIOT who believed the P.F!!!!

[Alpha Female]

I love you and only you.

You are the only one I want.

No one has ever believed in me the way you do.

You are the dream I dream.

I wake up in the middle of the night whispering your name.

I think about you all day long.

I can't wait for us to be together.

We will have such a wonderful life together.

There could never be another after you.

I promise you I am leaving my W and we will be together.

I swear we will be together.

And the one we ALL hear:

PLEASE BE PATIENT A LITTLE WHILE LONGER.

[2sure]

I buy my wife anything she wants and she still isnt happy

I work and work and work for my family, thats all I do

My wife is emotionally unable to care for our children

She and her entire family are crazy

I coulda been a contender

I'm lucky to get a blow job on my birthday

The best of everything, thats what my family gets. Me?? I dont need anything, I only sacrifice.

Variations on all of these from each MM I was OW to until I finally made the no talking about your wife rule. After that was in place and they realized I didnt need justification...they seemed quite happy with their lives at home. Also told me most of the things listed above by the other posters....it seemed to make them happy to do so.

[lovekillsslowly]

Well I never heard "Please be patient with me a little while longer"

BUT I did hear "Please don't give up on me."

And I didn't....and yet it didn't matter....because in the end he chose to work on his marriage instead of having anything with me other than a friendship. Well as the saying goes "with friends like that who needs enemies????"

And guess what??? I never, ever asked him to leave his wife for me....I told him straight from the get-go that I wasn't leaving the situation I was in and becoming a part-time mom and sharing custody with my kids on holidays and weekends and I didn't expect him to ever have to be a part-time dad.

What flipping insane man is giving THAT opportunity and "can't handle it."

What a bozo!!!

[learnfrommymistakes]

LOL I was going to ask the very same thing this week...

HERE ARE MINE, this is therapuetic, and makes me sick..lol

YOU MAKE ME FEEL ALIVE AGAIN
YOU ARE MEDICINE FOR MY SOUL
I STILL LOVE YOU
YOU WERE ALWAYS SO GOOD TO ME
YOU ARE THOUGHT OF (THAT WAS THE BEST, LOL. NOT I THINK ABOUT YOU, BUT YOU WERE THOUGHT OF PRETTY GIRL)
I AM PASSION FILLED FOR YOU
IF ONLY WE LIVED CLOSER (BITE MY ASS...THATS MY RESPONSE)
YOU MAKE ME FEEL YOUNG AGAIN
I THOUGHT OF YOU LAST NIGHT WHEN I WAS HAVING SEX WITH MY WIFE (THATS THE BEST, HAH?) BARF
I LOVE YOUR COMPANY
YOU ARE SUCH GOOD COMPANY
I DONT FEEL PASSION FOR HER ANYMORE, WE ARE LIKE ROOMATES, SEPARATE LIVES
WHEN ASKED HOW IS THE MARRIAGE....RESPONSE...WELL IT IS NOT WHAT IT ONCE WAS, (NO SH##)..LOL


YADA YADA YADA, AH I FEEL THE RAGE A' STIRRIN

[unhappylady]

I have plenty of these:

Marry me next year

I want to kill myself (when I broke up with him)

My wife and I have absolutely no physical contact.

I will never love anyone like I love you.

You are the most beautiful woman on the planet (bleurghh)

You are my best friend (funny way of showing it!)

Oh I could go on and on and on Loveshackians....!

[1Angel]

"My wife and I have a very inconsistent sex life."

"I wish I would have met you _____ years ago."

"I think about you ALL the time!"

"You're beautiful." "You're hot." Every day in text for months.

"You will always be treated with respect."

And lots of other absolute lies about W.

[MaureyL]

These are quite painful for me to recall, so just a choice few..

"you make me so happy"

"you are in my skin"

"I will take you everywhere I go"

I miss you so much when we are apart"

"I love you. It is important for me to say it."

"I would love for you to meet my family one day. Could you call me on the telephone and let me put you on loudspeaker so they could hear you talk?"

"It is not possible for you not to be sexy"

"your french sounds like a fairytale in my ears"

"what if I have made the wrong choice? (about going with the girlfriend)"

"If only we could have met before I met -----"

"Who knows what will happen? Tonight I spent all night on the computer looking at 'Once' while my GF and her sister watched movies on television. This is because the movie reminds me of you"

By the time it is time for me to leave ---------, you will have found someone else (this said with tears in eyes, you can imagine it I'm sure)

"your perfume is with me everywhere. Even when I take a shower, the smell still lingers."

There are a ton of them. I was completely bewitched!

[ladydesigner]

I hate thinking about them as it has been so long since I've heard them, but will never forget what he said to me he was my now XOM, he has a Significant Long Term Girlfriend:

I miss you so f**king much it hurts.

I hope this never ends (of course he ended it).

I would be so heartbroken if you ended it (again he ended it).

It feels good to be loved back by someone you are in love with.

You have made me the happiest I have ever been in my life.

Run Away with me.

Beautiful Lady, sexy girl, amazingly beautiful (oh god the list goes on how sickening).

You are the most beautiful woman I have ever been with.

If I had to choose I would choose you.

My shirt still smells like you.


....oh and the beloved:

I LOVE YOU (*puke*)

[SillyLady]

"I just wanted to hear the dulcet tones of your sing-song voice." - One I heard him use on his W while I used to work for him

"I want you to have my children." - His W already had 3 of his at the time he used this one

"Will you marry me?" - In retrospect, it was my favorite line in that it underscored just how much BS he was really feeding me.

DI hit the nail on the head with the "lie detector."