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I think MM who cheat do so not because they genuinely want out of their M at all. "They do it because theyre not getting sex, understanding, companionship, support, passion, laughter - whatever. Their M is missing some very key elements, and in order to make the M he never plans on leaving tolerable on a daily basis, he finds an OW that provides what his W and M lack. Now he has a perfectly happy life. He fulfills his obligation to stay with his M, and still gets all his needs met. Even if it takes two people to do it."
I have a gut feeling this is what's going on in my situation with my MM. Question for me is do I try and be patient a few more months to see if he acts on the "Something has to happen because I hate living like this" line......
I just am not sure if he feels "perfectly" happy but I do think I fill the void and somehow makes his life (in his marriage) tolerable to some degree. Which of course is not fair to me. And something I am learning about more and more. Putting me first.....what a concept- too bad its taken me 43 years to learn that. But at least I am doing that now. I can't change the past and have to keep pushing forward.
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