[MissJoness]

I became acquainted with someone from school, the woman is much older than me but she has a 'young spirit'. She is still into things that people in my age group are into.

Anyway, she seemed like she had good intentions. We would sit together in class and help each other out. And we even signed up for another class together for the fall semester so we can help each other get a good grade. No big deal students do this a lot. I particularly went into this with the mindset that this is a partnership, I was not really all that interested in a friendship even though seems really cool.

My red flags with this woman started coming up when she seemed too eager to be my best friend even though she barely knows me. We've been acquaintened for a couple months, and I haven't revealed too much about myself. She is always asking me to go out to the bar and stuff with her and I'm just not into that scene at least not with her..I would always decline. I'm just not into that atmosphere and and I drive (can't be drinking), and go to school fulltime. No time and don't want to make time. She would even try to plan our day, saying we're going to do this, this and that after class..without my consent. She was slowly starting to become clingy. I don't want to be around you every minute of the day. I don't wnat to hang out with you before, during and after class.

Then I started to since she was sexually attracted to me, the way her eyes would always stay fixed on my face and my features everytime we talked. I became uncomfortable just looking at her. She starting looking at my body and things like that. She once even sent me a text message saying "girl, i love you so much thanx" after I gave her some info. I've had plenty of female frineds in the past and none of them have done this when we've been acquianted with each other just for a couple of months. I didn't want to take it the wrong way because some female friendship are like that so at the time I just texted her back "ur welcome"

And now she is starting to become a bit more aggressive because when I come to class now she is just going on and on about how pretty I look..then she asks me if I want to hang out after. I don't know but she's just weird and want to get away from her.

The unfortunate thing is, is that I agreed to enroll in a class with her and I NEED this class. I went into this thinking she was heterosexual, wanting a study buddy to strengthen our grade..but all along she had other intentions. Like she put up this facade just so she can get next to me and I am pretty upset about that. Not to mention she is much older than me, a woman, and I am not attracted to her. I am not gay/bi or any of that.

She's nice I don't want ot hurt her feelings. I have to put that into consideration. But at times, when she compliments me while looking at me in a weird way I feel utterly disgusted and want to throw up.
I am mad that I am stuck with her for a whole semester. What do I do? I don't even want to look at her. I'm just turned off by the entire sitaution

[CarrieT]

Look at the grand scheme -- it is only one semester. You can buck-up and deal with her for one semester by finding other people to study with, make your schedule busy with other people that she doesn't fit into it, etc. She'll get the picture quickly enough.

[Tayla]

Your sense of a healthy boundary are definitely kicking in. We each have those senses of quesiness or uneasiness when it goes against our sexual boundaries.
Definitely steer clear of this person on any level other then social.

Hopefully the person gets the behavioral message.

[SHO]

This is an opportunity for you to establish meaningful and respected boundaries. Is there anyone near you that you could speak to about this? Counselor, therapist perhaps?

The good news is that once you master establishing boundaries like this, it will be far easier to navigate and manage people who don't understand them.

[Miss Clavel]

tell her to get lost and earn your own grades.

[libertygirl]

An older woman, trying to relive her glory days. She looks at you, and sees a younger her, with your whole life in front of you; including a social life. She wants to know whats'in', what's hot, and where are the places to go. She might think you are more of social butterfly that what you even are, just because of your age.

I would act like you are very lame - tell her you love to spend your nights taking care of your great grandmother, or you play cheese at nights..whatever. I think if you make yourself seem less interesting...she will back away.

I am not sure this woman is gay, because people who are attracted to each other play in a little more slick.

Good luck, and you can always come right out and ask her!!