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After 12 years of marriage I emailed an old high school sweetheart and now ex-girlfriend. Seems she caught her husband in bed with another man 2 months earlier and was going through an emotional breakdown. We lived 1000 miles apart and while I was unhappy in my marriage (my wife told me she didn't love me anymore, but would stay married for the sake of our 3 children) I never thought I would fall in love again.

After 3 months of emails and cell phone calls we met for the first time and ended up making love. 3 months after that I was transferred to my hometown, 30 miles away from my old high school sweetheart. My wife and children followed.

While she asked her husband to leave the house in February of last year, she broke up with me via an email last October. Within 2 weeks her BEST FRIEND calls me asking to reconsider having her back in my life. Like an idiot, I took her back and we became even more serious. Trips, vacations, spending more nights at her house, we became even closer.

After having the courage that my children would be fine without my physical presence, I finally moved out of my home this past April and made it perfectly clear that my soon to be ex wife and children would be assuming the home I was living in once school ended. My 'ex-girlfriend' is 38, childess (she suffers severe depression at 'that time of the month' every month, overweight, and an alcoholic. She pounds a bottle of wine a night. Her ace in the hole? She is extremely pretty and has an open mind regarding sex.

Last month she informs me she has been offered a job in the southeast (where I moved from) and would like for her an I to build a house together. Her dad showed us plans for his house and my exgf was excited about the possibility of her and I starting a life together. I had put her three nights a week visit to the local bar behind me, her temper tantrums, and the fact that while she has NO kids with her current husband (my wife and I have been discussing custody before we actually file) she hasn't moved forward to file a divorce.

To land the plane: one of her roommates from college passed away recently and she obviously went off the deep end. I came to her house that night to comfort her and stayed the night. The next night was her HS reunion where she met a man she hadn't seen in 20 years. He's an attorney (who lied to her about where he graduated from) and within 3 hours of chit chat with him, she decided to call me and break up our relationship.

At first she said all she wanted to do was date and get our divorces behind us, now it turns out that after only one meeting with a divorced 'rich attorney' who is 'very nice,' she has invited him to her home for a long weekend.

I'm not financial slouch...I make over six figures a year. Her contention is that after I pay alimony and child support I'll be broke. I never counted on falling in love with this woman and am heartbroken that after 2 1/2 years, and two days after being intimate, she destroys a relationship and a friendship.

I have tried to find a good reason why I care about someone who is unstable, an alcoholic, mean spirited, self-centered and materialistic. Her mom and one sister are the same way. Any advice?