[silvrgirl64]

My first post, please be patient. Three years ago I found out that my H was involved in an affair with a younger woman. When I confronted him he said that it was something that he had to work out. I told him to move out and I filed for divorce. Seven months later we reconciled after she kicked him to the curb when she found out that he misrepresented his portion of the marital assets (i.e. she found out that he had nothing by himself). After much begging and pleading and against strong objections by friends and family, I took him back. Since returning home he has acted depressed and lethargic. He will not talk about the affair and does not show any remorse for the havoc that it caused in my life, our child's life or the lives of our families. He just wants to act as if it never happened. In fact, he gets angry if it is mentioned. That makes me really angry.

On top of that the "other woman" who bills herself as a youth minister and leader of Chi-stain women has gone around town and denied that she was ever involved in the fiasco. She proceeded to marry the first man she met on the rebound and has come out of this disaster without anything sticking to her.
That makes me really angry.

I feel that I have suffered in ways that I may never fully recover from. I want for justice to be served in some manner. I try to believe that "what comes around goes around" but sometimes I just can't settle for that. My feelings are invalidated by my spouse and people seem to think that it this something that I will just have to get over. Will the desire for revenge ever go away?