[Mamma2twogirls]

I recently found out my BF/Fiance of 6 years, has been talking to another female. According to them both, confronted seperately, they havent done anything, they only talk. In fact, she asked If I was his wife calling. So obviously he is talking to her about me. Well, I was devistated. He is by far, a good communicator, I have ALWAYS been trying to get him to open up to me, and he has, but not like I would like. Now all of a sudden, or not, he can communicate with another female, and tell her things he should be telling me? I have read about emotional infidelity and this is exactly what I read, communicating with someone of the opposite sex, things u should be communicating with your mate. Is this cheating? I love him more than life, we have a little girl and I am about to give birth to our second daughter...should I forgive him? Can I live with this? I dont want to wonder everyday if he is talking to her, it KILLS me. Not to mention the fact that in the midst of my finding out, we were already fighting. So it only added fule to both our fires and he said some pretty HORRIBLE things he cant take back. For instance, he said he was only with me because each time we had broken up we had gotten pregnant. This is just not true. There is too much history, too many good times and bad, for it all to have been fake, IN MY HEART, I KNOW THAT. I think the things we BOTH said, came out of anger, because we were already pissed at eachother. Well, now, he is saying, without saying, that he isnt sure if he loves me, or wants to follow thru with our plans to marry and move us our to where he is currently working (he works a state away, though we grew up in the same city). I just dont know what to do. We have children, so I can just back off and let him breath so he will realize the mistake he is making because I need his help with the girls financially and so on. But I want to give him that opportunity to miss me. How do I do that, when I need money, which was ALWAYS our biggest problem, I needed it and he never has it or rarely comes thru. I dont want to take him for child support until I know our relationship is TRULY over, its too much drama, and I am not that type of person. I do think about my girls, I can provide for them myself, but his help is easier on doing so. Should I let him breath? For goodness sakes, we are having our second daughter in less than a week and all this is happening now!!! I think, I really do, that its the stress of the new baby, financially, and emotionally, that is causing the fights and so on. HELP ME. But please dont critisize me, my girls are fine, and marriage is not the issue.