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Marriage Help
I'll try to make this long sob story short.
I've been married almost 13 years and have 2 daughters, 7 and 10.
2 1/2 years ago, my husband started working a job that took him away from home for long periods of time. We talked on the phone all the time and saw each other as much as possible. At first, everthing was great and the times we saw each other were awesome.
In January of this year (2002), our relationship just seemed off. I couldn't place my finger on it, but I felt like my husband was enjoying his "bachelor" life more than his married life. Time together wasn't as wonderful. The biggest problem happened when my brother got very sick and died. Since March, I have just been kinda running on automatic. I moved back to my home state, hoping to have help with our children from family, and regain a sense of normalcy.
My husband didn't want us to make the move because he doesn't want to return to our "home" state. He's about a 5 1/2 - 6 hour drive away.
His last time home, things were just wrong. I flew up to see him and he dropped the biggest bomb - He said he isn't in love with me anymore and hasn't been for about a year (give or take). He doesn't know if wants to work it out or get a divorce. He says he loves me and we both just cried and cried. He said he felt really guilty.
I want our marriage to work, but I don't want to suffocate him by calling him all the time or making all the effort. I'm just at a loss as to what to do.
Has anyone else been through something like this??
P.S. Sorry if I haven't put this in the right place.
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