broken engagement?

june06

guys, i need your advice. yesterday i had a birthday (30). so my finacee, me and my sister went to the restaurant. in the restaurant he gave me a present (mobile phone!!). i got really upset and got drunk. he was trying to convince me to go home but i would not. i told him that he can go home, but i want to have some fun - drinking. when i got home - he was up and had written a long letter basically saying that he does not like me being self destructive, but still loves me etc. i was so drunk that i throw up and he cleaned after me. this morning when i got up i realised that he actually had bought beautiful diamond bracelet and chrystal champagne - the phone thing was to wind me up - the real present was as surprise at home.

now we had a talk this morning and now he says that because of my self destructive habbits he does not know anymore if we should get married.. that it is about the trust in relationship - that i should have known that he will not give me only the phone for my 30 bday (how could I - year before last he gave nothing for my bday). that we should discuss things.. when i emailed today asking if we are splitting up - he did not respond... i also think he got really disqusted yesterday when cleaning after me..

what do i do?