[SweptAway]

I have vented about my recent crush in other threads. To cut a long story short, I fell for a guy at work. He had a long term girlfriend. He also fell pretty hard for me (so he says) and we ended up having a big snoggng session on top of lots of deep and meaningful conversations (so it was an emotional affair). He didn't want to end his long term relationship, I was upset, but didn't throw a tantrum or yell at him, I kept a reasonable distance and remained friendly (I kept it light and conversations brief at work).

This was two months ago. Now, I'm finally at a point where I am totally ok, finally accepted the situation. Although he has recently been hanging around, acting weird and like he has something he needs to say.

Yesterday, he asks me to come out with him Friday night. I find this awkward considering he is still unavailable and tell him I'd think about it (give myself time to work out what he is up to). Then later on, he drops the bombshell. " Oh and guess what?...I'm single". Apparently it was mutual.

Eh? What??? This has thrown a spanner in the works. I thought I was over him, now all these dumb feelings are coming back. He didn't say he wanted to be with me now, just..."I'm single". Like he was leaving me to stew with that thought for a while. ARRRGH!

So....let's say he does want to be with me. Can I trust him? Should I assume that if he did it to her, he will do it to me?? Or should I think I'm special, he hasn't stopped thinking about me this whole time and he is finally free to be with me?

I have no idea. Should I assume once a cheat, always a cheat?