[trickynj99]

as i work thru all our issues, one real fundamental question keeps coming up in my mind...

how do i reconcile my responsibility to myself vs. my responsibility to my kids..

our marraige drifted for yrs and now my wife is "not in love" ...there are sooo many stories on this board about that kind of situation...i've moved out temporarily and i'm hoping we get to some kind of happy ending at some point..i'm trying to be patient but having kids makes it much rougher..

anyway, what do people think about having an "arrangement" where we both know for the kids sake we'll stay together for a period of time...kind of seems like a fantasy that is doomed, but in my shoes, living in an apartment, only getting playtime with kids, seeing them suffer everytime they have to change where they are sleeping, i wonder about my responsibility to them..

as parents, we say things like "i would give my life for my child"...there is no doubt that i would if given that choice. well what about tying that back into the family situation..i'm not saying it's ideal, i'm saying why does it seem so frowned on to stay together for the kids...

just wondering what people think about this issue