[Tony T]

Displacement, avoidance and/or conscious or unconscious defense mechanisms.

You only asked a question, which I have attempted to answer above, yet your heading implies you are needing advice. What exactly were you looking for here?

If you have these problems and are looking for a way to work through them, you need to post information like details about your family of origin, how you were raised, how you related to your parents, etc. These problems usually originate in bad parenting received by an individual.