[newbby]

Hello everyone,
I just read a very interesting article and I hope it helps everyone.
It may not be what we want to hear, but it is lesson worth learning.
This article stated that the one thing central to falling in love was a loss of control. This is the psychological factor neccessary to falling in love in either sex.
We have absolutely no control over a married man, it is the perfect situation to ensure that the neccessary requirements to falling in love are met. We are completely out of control in this situation.
Men are simplistic, if we enter into a situation knowing the facts, i.e, he is married, and/or we continue with that relationship (doesnt matter if he lies or not about his feelings, facts are facts) and worse still sleep with him, we are pretty much saying, we are okay with the situation and this is all we want from him.
The more out of control we feel, the more we try to please him (whether we like to admit this to ourselves or not), thus ensuring that he realises he has complete control over us, a perfect situation for him to NOT fall in love with us.
Sorry girls, but we do it to ourselves.
This pretty much means that it is too late to change anything in the relationship, but we can still try. If it doesnt work then we may have lost him, but at least we have found ourselves and learnt a valuable lesson.