[lobsterbabe]

my bf and i have been going steady for a good 3mos now. we see each other everyday. i've already met his family. (he hasn't met mine yet). overall, it's been pretty good and solid.

however, we have yet to talk about our pasts. he's divorced (a long time ago) and has a kid (the kid stays with the mom in another town). he just casually mentioned about it in the beginning of our relaionship but never went into details.. so was his past relationships. all he could say to me w/ his last gf was that they were together for about 3 years and that she was taking him seriously and he wasn't. and that she was pressuring him to marry her.

which led me to asking him, "how come you were w/ her for 3 years and never took her seriously?" and he said that he didn't love her. or something like that.... is that really possible?

i haven't had many long-term relationships (he has and actually enjoys it). i haven't mentioned anything about my past bf's to him... other than that i had been single for a while (and was casually dating) before i met him...

like, a part of me is very curious about his past and would like to see a pattern on his dating behaviors.. but a part of me doesn't want to know too much. i feel i would put myself in a situation to be a bit insecure and jealous (like, do i measure up to the other girls he's been with?)... i don't know. i'm torn..

then i kept reminding myself: he's no longer with them. they broke up for a reason. he's with me for a reason.

so, how do i bring that up??? how important is someone's past to the current relationship?