[honeybunch2k5]

I really dislike my mother,I appreciate everything she's done for me, but I can't stand her.
We are too different. She is just too uptight for me. I'm more of a free spirit. I realize that I'm 18 and haven't bought my own car and I don't pay rent, but I think there are things I ought to be able to do like spend time w/ my bf, choose when and where and even if i want to go to college. I think it's time for her to grow up and let me grow up.

Where do I begin...

Our most recent argument is about me spending the night at my bf's house. I do admit I screwed up (I have a crappy midnight curfew) by staying until the morning. I wanted to spend time w/ him before he went out of town for 2 weeks. Honestly, I don't think it's a big deal for an 18 year old girl who has a job and pays for gas and insurance on a car to spend the night somewhere. She sees them differently.

She tries to dictate who I date. She's mad because William is in the navy, getting deployed to Iraq, white(I'm black) and 23. All these facts together somehow make him a cheater. I admit he's not perfect, but I should be allowed to date him if I want. And supposedly I'm too immature to handle it when he goes away for 6 months. Supposedly he has a white girlfriend his own age. I've met all his friends,and I doubt a guy only after one thing would do that.

She complains about me not meeting his parents. I live in MS they live in PA. We're not getting married so what's the need of them flying down here?

She says the only reason a black woman and a white man should be together is out of love. I understand that he is going back north next summer and this may just be an extended fling, but hell it's my choice to be involved.

She calls me desperate because I won't date the guys she likes.

She complains that he doesn't respect her. Read the above. Would you respect someone who stereotyped you like that? I wouldn't. If someone said she was no good b/c she was black she'd be screamin racism. She gets mad b/c he doesn't talk to her but yet I offer it and she says she doesn't want to talk anyway. She makes loads of sense. Let's see where else she makes sense...

She got mad at last year for not having a job, but she's the one who terminated my employment. She said it was because I stayed out late. For pete's sake I still wanted to have a social life. Then she took $500 out of my account w/o my knowledge for insurance and I thought she was cutting me some slack. After all, she's the one who made me lose my job.


She says I do nothing around the house, but I'm the one who cleans up her dog's ****. Yes, I tell her she just leaves it laying around. I'll admit I'm not great at chores.

She's selling the car because I spent the night w/ my bf and i went to lunch after she said no, but my grandpa said it was ok as long as I left her a note.
I think she's having a problem w/ power and realizing now that I want to socialize w/ other people. She claims I treat him better than her. So what I spent a night w/ him. Was it really so bad. Now how am I supposed to get to work? I make a little better than minimum wage i can't afford a taxi and my grandpa prolly couldn't help me on that either.

She calls me a prostitute, and a slut, and then denies it in front of my grandpa. yet she expects me to obey and respect her as if I'm some kind of doormat. She'll even say i'm out walking the streets. What kind of woman walks the streets at night?She is a lying bitch. The problem is i'm more of a party girl and she thinks I should be more like her.