[joodee]

Well long story short, supposedly ex-mm stopped by my night job unexpectedly tonight. Earlier in the evening he He was with his w at their daughter's junior high school awards ceremony. He texted me this, I texted back have a good time, and was basically going to leave it at that, since the only communiceration between us for a long time was texting. Well, a half hour later he showed up unannounced at my night job, and I asked why was he here. He said he missed me and he didn't want me to think he was out all night with his w. I told him I had to go back to work, I can chat just a little bit here and there, and while I was gone he was checking out his cell. I asked what he was doing, he said he was texting me, but I saw his W's cell phone number. I asked him if he was texting w, he said sometimes when they have to communicate (they have two kids together). I then asked why was he here, he said again that he missed me, I said then you will tell your w about us if that is how you really feel.

He then got offended and said I was lecturing him, I said you were the one who showed up at my job unannounced to try to prove something. I then grabbed his cell phone and started looking around, he asked what was I looking for, I handed it back to him and said that he knows what upsets me, are you here to do something about it? He then got cocky and said he was there to have a drink and relax (????); now my months of therapy started kicking in and I basically said tell your wife about us, end of story. He started again to say I was lecturing him, I said will you tell your wife? He then said I'll think about it, and left. Then, while I was trying to work, he started text messaging me all this crap, saying I ruined a perfect evening, ,he knew I wouldn't go to the job fair, etc. (basically attacks) I simply said that all I asked was for him to tell his w about us cause if they were truly separated and if she had a boyfriend, he would have no problem telling her about me, if I was what he wanted, cause I will NOT be a dirty secret if he and I were to get back together. He responded saying I pushed him away, I said that he always says that when I ask when will he tell w about us....

And then I got a text saying that it was time to say goodnight. I didn't respond.

I'm so pissed at myself for not telling him to go straight to you-know-where. I am tempted to cut all communication off without warning. What do you all think?????? This is really going nowhere, and I really realize now that he's not playing with a full mental deck.