[Jlmic1]

Hello All!! Im sorry if this post is kind of long but I hope someone will be kind enough to give me some advice, ANY advice would be appreciated. I'll try to make this as short as possible.
I have a 4 year old SD, and I have been married to my husband for a year now. We dated for a year before that. Up until recently we had no problems with the SD but this past weekend things got out of control. Let me start by telling you that this little girl loved me to death and I love her very much too. But this past weekend, every time her dad turned his back she said something awful to me... almost wicked even. My H went upstairs to shower and the minute he was out of the room SD said " Im gonna wreck your house and me and my dad are gonna laugh while you clean up MY mess" I then said, "why would you say something like that" then she continued with her story about how she was goinog to rip my pictures off the wall, break all of my tables and throw everything on the floor, and if there was any glass, she was going to break it and laugh as I cleaned it up on my hands and knees. WOW I was stunnded. As I said my SD and I always had a wonderful relationship and that came out of NOWHERE. But thats not all... every time her dad turned his back she called me stupid and attempted to order me around. She told me that she was gonna color her mom and dad pretty pictures and give me the ugly ones. She called me stupid repeatedly. And she kept saying things like, me and my dad are gonna watch a movie and you cant watch.. or me and my mom play this game at home, but you cant play. OMG forgive me but I wanted to punt her.. but I didnt.. I tried being cool about it, but now Im loosing my mind over it, and I dont want to be here this weekend when she is here.. primarily because my H doesnt like it when I tell her no or enforce any kind of disipline what so ever. Let me add also that this child is not PARENTED when she is here by my H... she runs wild like an animal with no disipline until Im ready to pull my hair out. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! What do you read into this'? Where is all this comming from??