[happily_divorseing]

Gawd!!!
I dont know where to begin, I love my daughter with all my heart. I would do anything for her. But i am frustrated with her, and mad at her all at the same time. She is 13 years old, i want to let her be a teenager, but the things that she does, just gets to me.
Every day after school she has to go to her friends house, oh and on weekends she goes there. Her friend is the only child. I remind her to come home every day. I told her she has to ask if she want to go over there. She never asks me. She just does whatever she wants to.

Before x-mas vacation, she got caught skipping school (4 days). She got 3 weeks grounding for skipping and 2 days in house suspension. She has not done it since. She is failing 8 th grade.
But there is one thing, when she is home she is a perfect angel. When ever i have to talk to her at her friends house, she gives me an attitude, until i give in. I know i have to be strong with my desicions, but i am at my wits end with her. It seems that she want to live at her friends house and not here.
Grounding her does not help, she's like " oh well". I even grounded her from her friend, and she told me that i can't do that.

How can i get it through to her that it hurts me when she has no respect for me. It feels that she is controlling my life. I am the mother not her.

Some advice on how you would or have handled a situation like this would be greatly appreciated.