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Old 10th January 2005, 11:14 PM   #1
Maxxus
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Adding a friend to my current relationship (very long)

I have been with my girl friend for two years now. I love her very much, and honestly I can't see myself without her. About a year ago we met a girl who moved in with my aunt so she could escape her mother and have a chance to graduate high school (more on that if someone asks). This girl is almost exactly alike physicaly and mentaly to my grilfriend. They are the same hight, have the same proportions, have scars in the same places. They also think increadablely alike. They dont have to talk to know what the other is thinking most of the time.

So when we met this girl, I couldn't help but feel something for her. At first I tried to take a brotherly approach, but I was just too romanticaly attracted to her. Until now I have let my aunt and my girlfriend think I loved her no more than a sister. Which was just as well because she was involved with a guy who had been her neighbor. The guy was a complete jerk though and treated her like crap. Half the time he said he was coming over he would disappear altogether or get there 2 hours later than it should have taken him. Everyone was pretty sure he was cheating on her, but she wouldn't listen. Well, he dumped her on her birthday a few weeks ago and she pretty much over him now.

Recently my girlfriend and I took this online Kinky test because we thought it would be fun, and one of the questions was, "Have you ever had a threesome?" She went first and said, "No, not interested", but when I did it I chose "No, but am interested." At first it through her off and she didn't know what to think. But the next day she said to me I think we should have a threesome. I told her okay but everyone invovled had to be very comfortable with each other and what was going on. She immeadiatly thought of our friend, and asked her if she would be our third.

So we invited our friend to my girlfriends appartment to stay the night last weekend, but not to have a threesome yet. We went out and had a good time and went back to the appartment and played monopoly until we got tired. At first I was just going to sleep on the couch and let the girls have the bed, but my girlfiriend said why don't we all sleep in the bed and our friend said that she was okay with that. I asked our friend if she was sure because my girlfriend and I sleep naked, and she said she was sure. So we all ended up in bed naked with my girlfriend in between me and our friend.

We spent a few hours just talking and getting to know each other better. Now, I like making comments that get a rise out of other people, so when our friend said her nipples were hard, I said "ooh can I feel?" hoping to get a rise out of both of them. But to my suprise our firend said yes, but I wasn't about to get my hand even close until my girlfriend forced my hand on our friend's boob. Well, any other time that I was touching our friend that night, just on the waist or back, it wouldn't be long before my girlfriend snatched my hand away.

Im the least sexualy experienced one out of all of us; my girlfriend is the first and only woman I have had sex with. Im am okay with the threesome whether it is with intercouse with both of them or just my girlfriend. I am a little indifferent as to whether we have the threesome or not, I just like having them both around. My girlfriend is the next sexualy experienced one. She says that she is okay with the threesome as long as she is the only one I have intercourse with, but I can tell she is jelous of sharing me and maybe doesn't want to. She keeps pushing for the threesome by getting us in bed together, pressuring our friend to do it, and trying to have sex with me with our friend in the bed. Our friend is the most sexualy experience of all of us and she is perfectly okay with having a threesome. But if she does, she knows she is going to want to have intercourse, and because of that she has been a little reseved of going through with it. Every time my girlfriend pushes our friend puts her off.

So between the night in bed together and questions I asked to both of them in private, here is what I have gathered. Our friend wants to have a threesome, because I think she has a crush on me, but won't because she wants to have intercouse and doesn't want to make my girlfriend mad at her. She feels that even though my girlfriend says she wants to, my girlfriend does trust her. My girlfriend doesn't really want a threesome but she wants to show me she can be as adventurous and open as me. And I just want them both in my life. I want to be able to tell them both that I love them and not worry about what they think. I want to be able to put my arms around both of them and cuddle. I want to be able to sleep next to both of them and feel their warmth.

So it all boils down to these nagging questions. Should we have a threesome? Should I have intercouse with my girlfriend only or both? Should I try and convince my girlfiend to let me have intercourse with our friend? Should I try and convince our friend that she doen't need to have intercourse with me? Should I try and make our friend like a second girlfriend? Should I try and convince both that its okay for me to have two girlfiends? Should I distance myself from our friend? Should I make the first move? Should I wait for them to work it out on their own? Should I tell them how the other feels? Should I wait for one of them to make the first move?

Normaly I wouldn't be in this perdicament because I don't have a wandering eye. But they are just so much alike that I can honestly say that I love both exactly the same amount. I really need to find answers to these questions soon, because my girlfriend invited our friend over for the weekend again. Any advice, comments, questions would be much appreceiated.

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