[Losther]

Has anyone her ever been in a mentally abusive realtionship? My ex just sent me a lsit of things tht I do that Angers her and after reading the list I went online and read about Controlling Abusive realtionships. And alot of the charecteristics they decribe are things I do. Control, Anger and Manipualtion.

I never thought I was Mentally abusive but now I know I am and am actually scared and want to do whatever it takes to stop controlling. But I guess part of the psyche of this type of person is to not accept that they may be a at fault in any situation. This clears alot up for me and I see where me and her have diverged in the past. I can only imagine how low I have probably made her feel with the lack of respect for what she felt and the lack of communication we had.

So I guess my engagemnt ring idea is out cuz it would only emphasize the fact that I am a controlling person.

But now I fear the this reLAtionship is truly lost. I was wondering, has anyone ever been in this type of realtionship, and has the person they were with ever changed?

Basically do i have HOPE? And what do I do, besides getting myself help? Or is that all I can do.